Me and my toddler are being made homeles

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I will try to keep this brief as it could end up being a very long read. Basically, i moved over 150 miles away from friends and family to be with my now ex partner. Following our split after our son was born my ex offered me and my son his flat whilst he stayed with his mum. He did this on the understanding that we would soon be re housed. He was even good enough to pay the rent for us. He is now wanting to move back into his flat because he keeps falling out with his mum and has told me that myself and our son have to move out after Christmas. We have no where to go and there is no way we can live together as even though we are civil, things can get nasty quite quickly and there's been violence on his parts. So, after Christmas me and my son will be homeless. I know i have to apply to the council but i really don't know how long this can take as we literally have nowhere to go.

Why weren't you already applying for housing... were you hoping the freebie deal would just continue?

Could you move back home to your family?

I had applied for housing. I have been bidding for months now. He was hoping we would be gone by now but i have said the re housing situation could take a very long time.. So there's no need to be rude. I am not financially dependent on him he just paid the rent because he wanted the flat to return to when we left

OP, I am so very sorry to hear of your situation, especially with a little one to care for

Surely your Ex will give you more time to find somewhere suitable? If he really is callous enough to effectively throw you out, are there work colleagues/neighbours/a local church who could help? Not sure where you're located but Women's Aid national contact info is:
0808 2000 247 - Freephone 24 hr National Domestic Violence Helpline Run in partnership between Women’s Aid & Refuge and the UK website is at www.womensaid.org.uk/

Sorry I can't offer more but hopefully someone better equipped will do that soon. You must be so terribly worried though, and I didn't want to just read and move on.

I hope things work out for you x

My mum and brother live in a 2 bedroom private rented property. She could probably have us there a couple of weeks at the most. She said any longer she could get into trouble with her landlady.

I don't have anyone here. Me and my son are very isolated, i did work before i was pregnant but never had any friendships that went outside of work and I don't have contact with anybody now. I think my best bet may be citizens advice or something. Thank you for your reply.

I understand about your Mum's situation with landlady. Perhaps she has a friend or friends who could also provide you with accommodation on a temporary basis, since you have a toddler. CAB is a great idea and also your local GP surgery/baby clinic might be able to put you in touch with others who could help.

I feel for you x

england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/homelessness/rules/emergency_housing_if_you_are_homeless

england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/homelessness/temporary_housing_if_youre_homeless/refuges_if_youre_a_woman_suffering_from_domestic_abuse

You indicated things could get "nasty quite quickly and there's been violence on his part" so this link may prove more helpful.

I was going back to the doctors in the week as i suffer from severe anxiety anyway but i feel that in the coming weeks i may need stronger medication to help me through cos the worry is crippling and i need to be clear headed and calm for the sake of my son. There is absolutely no one that can take us in, especially so close after Christmas. We need to be out Boxing Day. Thanks again for your kind help, it's much appreciated x

www.refuge.org.uk/ Freephone 24-Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247

Thanks so much. I will give that helpline a call. X

Contact women's aid/ shelter and citizens advice. I'm sure someone will be able to help you. State you have a toddler and ex has a history of violence.
Good luck and best wishes.

There will be someone who can help if you contact one of those agencies now and fill them in on your circumstances - they exist, to help women in your situation. I know it must feel overwhelmingly difficult and I appreciate that your anxiety level must be through the roof, but right now it's the 8th December. Those national phone lines are 24-hours. You have two and a half weeks to get something in place for you and your son. It can be done. Let people who can help you, help you. Don't just accept the threat made by your Ex. Don't just give up. For your own sake, but more for the sake of your child, ring one of those numbers and do it now.

OP, if you are able, do update on progress. All the very best to you x

I work for Citizens advice. You could talk to them, Women's Aid or Shelter. You can and should make a homeless application to the council where you want to live (I suggest back in the area where your family and friends live, not where your abusive ex is). If there is any evidence of the abuse - ie if you ever reported the violence to the police or got medical help for any injuries - you can apply on the grounds of fleeing domestic violence. Women's Aid will be the best people to advise on that. But even if you're not applying on those grounds you should still be eligible for assistance.