Unsupervised internet access at play dates / sleepovers

[concernedforthefuture]

I'm quite strict with internet access. DC are 6 & 8 and are only allowed to visit websites that we've checked over and given the ok. I don't allow mindless browsing of You Tube as don't feel I can supervise properly what they have access to. They don't have their own devices but have regularly get to use our iPad / computers.
As they've gotten older, it seems that play dates at other children's homes are less about playing and more about sitting in their friends' rooms on the iPad / phone / games consoles. They are often coming home saying that they just 'watched You Tube' for 2 hours. I don't like this at all. Mostly because I have no real idea what they're being exposed to, but also because I don't think they should be glued to screens at that age. Kids invited here just want to be online too and visibly strop when I say we don't do that. Board games, outside play, cooking etc have no appeal so trying to shift the play dates to our house won't work.
So, how do I approach this? I don't want to isolate my kids by saying no to play dates but I'm not ready for them to have unsupervised internet access just yet. I'm obviously in the minority so don't want the mums thinking I'm bonkers if I tried to have a chat with them.

I think you'll have to either fine like minded parents or have a chat with your children's current friends' parents. Perhaps those parents don't like it either, but they think they have to allow it because "everyone else is allowed"?

FIND like minded parents, don't actually give them a fine!

Unfortunately it's a very small school so not a huge amount of choice about who the kids mix with. I always thought the other parents were on my wavelength TBH; it's only really over the last year as their kids have got their own tech etc. that I've realised our parenting styles are very different!

I don't think there is a happy answer to this. My children are in early 20s now but we had exactly the same issues when they were little. Other children seemed to have access to unsuitable xbox games at an early age. You can't dictate what other people's children do in their own homes and you will find yours no longer get invited to these particular homes if they have such restrictions in place.
It gets harder as they get older. To be honest I gave in eventually and they have turned out ok

@Sunshineonleaf Thanks. That's good to know. It's so hard. I want them to have time with their friends but am really struggling with this. I thought I'd have a few more years before having to worry about what they were watching online!