DS (2.5) has the same surname as his dad, we all live together and me and DP are together as a couple but I don't think marriage is realistically on DP's radar. Regardless of the logistics of marriage, which isn't the point of this thread, I dislike not having the same surname as DS. When we found out I was pregnant, we weren't living together or even a serious couple but the assumption always was that DS would have DP's name and I went along with it because I just sort of felt like I should.
I regret it now and wish I had given him my name.
There's a deal on the Deed Poll website and essentially I could change my surname for £40. Obviously there would be extra on top for driving licence and passport, but I think £40 to begin with is a decent price. I'm not overly attached to my surname and do feel odd not having the same name.
Twice in just over two years it has been made an issue of - once when my mother sent a parcel addressed to DS using his full name that I missed, so had to collect at the post office. The man at the desk wouldn't give it to me because my surname was different. On top of that, this year we went on a family holiday to Majorca and DS and I ended up flying out separately to DP. I had to have a letter of permission, witnessed by a solicitor, and carry DS' birth certificate. No one checked on the way out, but on the way back at Manchester, even though DP was with us at the time, I was stopped specifically to be told that I would need those documents.
I know it's very common these days for families to have different surnames but I have found it to cause practical problems like above and I also find it a little upsetting. Perhaps upsetting is too strong a word, it's not like I sit around crying about it, but it does pop into my mind quite regularly.
Is it weird if I just change my name by deed poll? Does it bother anyone else, having different surnames to their children?