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Colleague shafted me, should I still travel with her?

81 replies

Caffeineismydrug35 · 08/12/2018 10:27

I know this sounds ridiculously petty but I’m fuming at a colleague who seriously shafted me this week and am unsure about whether I should suck it up and move on or should I cut contact.
For context, I work in a very competitive environment. We have been on a mission to hit a target and yesterday (after a lot of work) I achieved it. This CF has taken credit for it resulting in a very big bonus. There is no one to back either of us so ultimately it would be my word against hers if I took it up with management. I told her exactly what I thought but she laughed it off. We car-share our journeys but I’m really tempted to make my excuses and drive everyday and get her to do the same. We work closely together so I don’t really want a major falling out but I’m so bloody pissed off. I honestly don’t know how to play this.

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Oblomov18 · 08/12/2018 11:55

Badtardkitty's above text is PERFECT.

OutragedERIC · 08/12/2018 11:55

The lift share is by the by for me, I’d be speaking up regardless. So what if it’s her word against yours? I’d want my word heard.

Oblomov18 · 08/12/2018 11:56

And speak to management. Get your bonus back.

Reaa · 08/12/2018 12:01

bastardkitty

'I presumed you'd have the sense to realise that when you lied and took the credit and bonus for my work, that your lifts would come to an end'.

I like that comment

IRanSoFarAway · 08/12/2018 12:01

What a devious c*w she is shafting you like that. No I wouldn't want to car share either and I would take it further too. You might be worried it will make things awkward but she laughed at you when you brought it up and has no consideration for you all.

IRanSoFarAway · 08/12/2018 12:03

Do you have evidence it was you that did the work, written, phone calls etc?

MrsTerryPratcett · 08/12/2018 12:04

She stole from you. Why wouldn't you want to fall out?

Wordthe · 08/12/2018 12:08

It isn't petty to be angry when someone has stolen from you
You don't have to turn the other cheek

Wallywobbles · 08/12/2018 12:10

Please don't sit on this. Tell management and copy anyone and everyone in.

WTFIsAGleepglorp · 08/12/2018 12:10

She stole that bonus from you.

No. YANBU. The text above is perfect.

TrippingTheVelvet · 08/12/2018 12:12

Is it as clear cut as you did it all and she didn't? I share with another team and they bicker -bitch- about this all the time. Only one person can claim the target but often one has provided the initial contact etc and then handed it over to the other for completion. Both always think it should have been theirs to claim. Could that be the case?

PattiStanger · 08/12/2018 12:14

Why can't you speak to the management about it?

DramaAlpaca · 08/12/2018 12:14

Send the above text, it's perfect.

Oh, and take it up with management as well.

sackrifice · 08/12/2018 12:16

How exactly did she take the credit for it?

Workreturner · 08/12/2018 12:17

There is no one to back either of us

You have no evidence whatsoever? None. No email trail etc to show that you led this?

HollowTalk · 08/12/2018 12:18

Can you tell us how she managed to explain that work was hers when it was yours? Isn't there any proof at all that you did it?

And no, I wouldn't be sharing lifts with her at all, but I'd bring up the credit for the job with HR before putting anything in writing about it to her.

Workreturner · 08/12/2018 12:18

You were working in complete isolation?

That just doesn’t ring true

kim81 · 08/12/2018 12:25

speak to your superiors. cut her off.

Hermano · 08/12/2018 12:27

I'd talk to management. I'd probably say I wanted to let them know that actually I was responsible for the work, I'm not trying to get colleague in trouble or claw back nay if the bonus etc, but it is important that they know a) I am good at my job and can get the work done to hit targets and b) that colleague is happy to act dishonestly to her own selfish gain.

I'd say I didn't want it formally recorded this time, but in future I'd like them to be aware and to give me a chance to put forward my evidence of work to earn future bonuses. The subtext would also be that in future they need to keep an eye on her dishonesty, but I don't think it would be to your benefit to make that point explicitly.

You need to get across that you're hard working, capable, honest, but also not one to kick up a fuss about something petty. By making this point they'll clearly see that the reverse is true about her.

I do think you have to tell them, and if they choose to take it further and it has consequences for her then so be it

Wordthe · 08/12/2018 12:37

It's not just money that this woman has stolen from you, she's taken the credit for your work she's made a fool out of you and laughed about it
because she knows you'll be polite and not competitive she can get away with it

you told her what you thought of her and she just laughed at you
she has totally fucking owned you
are you going to let that go

MadeForThis · 08/12/2018 13:39

If you don't act she will just do it again.

Gazelda · 08/12/2018 13:48

Many years ago, I complained to my boss that I hadn't received recognition for something months previously. He told me that he'd have had far more respect for me professionally if I'd raised the point at the time rather than passively aggressively seething. He taught me that it is my responsibility to look after my professional reputation.

So, if I were you, I'd be mentioning this to management. Not to point score, but to set the record straight on this issue and going forward.

Rosielily · 08/12/2018 13:49

I don't understand why you wouldn't want to complain about her to management. Does she have form for shafting her colleagues? Is she a bully who people are scared to stand up to? She cannot have it both ways - shafting colleagues then expecting them to still give her a lift. She wasn't bothered about you when she took the credit for the work you'd done - why should you now continue to car share with her?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 08/12/2018 15:10

Speak to management. If its your word against hers then why should they take her word!

Dextrodependant · 08/12/2018 15:14

I don't understand how there is no evidence at all of you doing the work. No client contact you have been working with? No emails, no contract?