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Noisy Neighbours- anxiety

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cjt110 · 07/12/2018 21:25

I'll start off by saying noisy, basy, music sets my anxiety off. Always has since being a kid and not being able to sleep because the neighbour had their music on....

Just knocked on neighbour and got a load of abuse.

I could hear the bass over my telly so knocked. Music was quite loud.

(This is the fella I keep getting calls on the intercom for. I knocked a few weeks back to say can you give delivery people your number. The intercom is linked to our mobiles. So they see 105A and dial 105. Not his fault - they don't know it's 205. So I told him that (that they need to dial 205 for him) and to please give his number so it rings him and not me... they were calling me like every few days wirh parcels.)

I knock again then hear him come down and music goes down. Anyway I knocked. I hear him come out of his lounge and go upstairs. I knock again. He opens and I say any chance you could turn your music down a little - I can hear the bass over my tv.

He looks at his watch and says well were entitled to play music, especially as we don't do it very often. Come in. It's not that loud. I said well it must have been turned down because it's certainly quieter now. He says it hasn't been and that they have people over and says again they're entitled to play music. I said oh yes I agree (which I totally do) but all I'm asking is can you please be mindful because I can hear it over my tv which is the other side of the house from you. He says well, were entitled blah blah. I just said all I'm asking is you be considerate and he says ok and shuts the door.

We are his only neighbours don't play music so he'd have no idea how the bass travels here.

Approx 5 mins later the music and bass is back on loud.

I genuinely don't care or mind him having a bit of music on.

It's the shitty attitude and reply.

Don't know why I'm posting other than to "debrief" my brain.

I hate it. I hate bass.

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cjt110 · 07/12/2018 21:26

Am on app so apologies for lack of paragraphs

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Bombardier25966 · 07/12/2018 21:34

All I can suggest is putting some headphones in and hoping they turn it off at eleven.

Some people are inconsiderate. We only have one neighbour that causes any problems and thankfully it's not often. I have a feeling that night could be soon though Confused

cjt110 · 07/12/2018 21:37

I'm trying to lose myself in tv. And the more I tried, the more amplified it seemed to be.

I genuinely am not a party pooper. Neighbours (we've lived here 9 years) in the past haven't realised how loud it can be. Once speaking to them and whatnot... they'd say "we're having a party on X" and it didn't bother me in the slightest.

Drinking wine. Hoping it helps me drop off as soon as I get to bed.

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AlwaysSomethingThere · 07/12/2018 21:44

I have so much sympathy and understanding for you I can't even put it into words. People who force their lifestyles onto other people should be made to have "I am a selfish, inconsiderate cunt" tattooed onto their forehead. I absolutely hate them.

Pimmsypimms · 07/12/2018 21:53

We had neighbours like this op. I was pregnant at the time and would come home from work wanting a quick nap but the music and bass were so loud I couldn't. I asked them to turn it down and they wouldn't and we got a a load of abuse for asking. This happened most days.
It got to the point where I would dread going home after work. We eventually moved.
I now find that after that whole experience, I am now irrationally anxious whenever I hear my current neighbours playing any music and they are fairly considerate neighbours. I really sympathise Thanks

cjt110 · 07/12/2018 21:53

Well... any parcels we get now will go in the fucking bin.

I don't think it's unreasonable to say what I said. I didn't kick off, or say turn it off. I said I could hear the bass and was going to ask could the adjust their settings or such

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cjt110 · 07/12/2018 21:58

Pimmsypimms My anxiety harks back to when I was really young... 7 or 8. Neighbour having summwr parties - totally nothinf wrong wirh it at ALL.

We've never had issues wirh neighbours and now, I'm anxious that that is about to happen.

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Notsogoodhousekeeping · 07/12/2018 22:15

I totally get where you're coming from.

I'm moving house for several reasons, but the main one being neighbour noise. My neighbours are quite nice people, but despite me going round repeatedly when things are too loud, they just don't get that their noise really travels. Music, hammering, general banging, bass-heavy surround sound on the games console, loud music in the garden, staying out in the garden drunk and shouting till late at night, you name it.

When I complain (which is about every six months max) they are very nice about it, apologetic even, but within a few weeks it's back to how it used to be. I don't use my garden in the summer any more because they are so noisy, they ruin it.

It's ruined my house for me. Such a shame. I can't deal with the anxious anticipation of their noise every damn day any longer.

cjt110 · 07/12/2018 22:31

Am "glad" that the noise issue isn't just my own.

It's blowing a gale and rainy and can hear a house alarm. fine with all of that

bassy music just gets me.

Thanks for listening all

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KlutzyDraconequus · 07/12/2018 22:36

I know how you feel op, it causes me much misery and if I could love in the centre of an empty field, I would.

I have a cable from my TV, under carpets and rugs and up behind my sofa. It lets me use headphones or earphones when watching TV. Cost a few quid on Amazon and it's saved my sanity I think.
Google:
3.5mm male to female cable
Plugs into headphone socket of TV.

bluebell34567 · 07/12/2018 22:44

invite them and make them hear the bass from your home.
once in your shoes maybe they will understand.
they may not be affected by the bass at their home but it can be more loud in your place.

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