How long would you go without sex...

[User3000]

Before you started to question why?

(Whilst in a relationship)

@jessstan2 I agree sex is only part of a relationship. But does that mean we have to learn to live without it? To some people, sex is quite important. You would never question why that part had disappeared?

@Tinkerbellisnotafairy 12 years. Have a really good relationship, always have done.

@Strokethefurrywall I hear you! No one is allowed within 5 metres of me when it's that time of month!

Oh this is worrying we’re only participating twice a year and he won’t talk about it he snaps at me
I don’t know if ids because I’ve put in weight size 16-18 ) and I’m disgusting or there is someone else

No idea
Do people divorce over this ?

Depends.

Back in the day before living together, I'd have questioned no sex if we'd spent the night together and not shagged (those were the days). Once we lived together - but pre-DC - I'd have been asking questions after a few weeks.

Now 3 kids down the line, it doesn't come up in convo unless it's been a really long time!!

We seem to go through stages where it’s every day to nothing for weeks. Life tends to get in the way with work, tiredness, dc etc, also both female so two weeks of the month tend to be blocked off... if it’s been more than 2 weeks one of us tend to say ‘oi are we ok’

We usually do it once a month. I have zero sex drive and feel sorry for dh. I want another baby but never gonna happen as I'm 40 in January and can't manage sex more than once a month. Dh never puts pressure on me but I know he longs for more intimacy. It's been like this for 10 years now.

@CheddarIsNotTheOnlyCheese purely out of interest, and tell me to mind my own if you want, but why can't you manage sex more than once a month?
Is it purely that you don't fancy it, or life gets in the way?

@CheddarIsNotTheOnlyCheese oh I just re-read and say you said you have zero sex drive, apologies.

*saw, not say

I went off sex for about 8 months after the traumatic birth of dd1. Dp didn't hassle me and I felt better after a while.

It was 2 years for me. I was always the one to initiate and hated doing that. DH just doesn't have the drive and I gave up after I gave birth to DD2.
After the two years I basically jumped DH and got pregnant that night (my body must have known!)
Since then we've been okay but it still hurts a bit that it has to be me who initiates it every single fucking time. I mean, I know he enjoys it, but he won't bother if I don't basically push him into it.

Thankfully he's wonderful in every other way. A devoted dad and good husband (though only affectionate in response to me. I love you is only ever a response from him after I say it.)

2 weeks, unless there was something like flu in the mix.

User I don't want to be this way. I love dh so much. I've reassured him I still find him attractive. It just doesn't compute to my lady garden. Would do anything to feel fanny gallops again. I've been to the GP. I'm on Sertraline which probably doesn't help. Plus dd's birth was very traumatic and I needed 100+ stitches as she weighed 11lb, got stuck and I had an episiotomy (which was done without pain relief as she was turning purple). Maybe subconsciously my body is trying to prevent a pregnancy. (I had a mc a couple of years ago).

Usually twice-ish a week, but now I'm 8 months pregnant I'd rather chop my toes off. I can't even sleep in the same bed as DP let alone do the deed 😬

We have 3 dc at varying ages 14, 10 and a very demanding 3 yr old. Dp would have sex most days but I can go about a month tbh if unprompted. Work, studying, chores etc. We manage a quickie on the couch tho at least once a week these days. I still fancy the arse off him and I know he does too. We used to have sex 3 times a day and still do on breaks away from the dc. He does most of the initiation so if we went more than 2/3 weeks without him doing so I’d be worried.