If you are NC with a parent/s, and are sad and upset about it, does it make you feel even more sad at Christmas time?
I’m NC with both parents (divorced) for completely different reasons, one of which upsets me and the other feels like it is, unfortunately, the best thing I could have done for my sanity.
Feel so upset and teary about my DF, who would now be 78, and I have heard through relatives that he has been diagnosed with cancer. I reached out and emailed a few weeks ago but no response. He lives in another distant country so it’s not possible to visit at the drop of a hat.
My MIL died last year and of course for FIL, DH & my SIL it is obviously a very sad time of year for them. It just feels like I have lost my parents but in a different way which most people can’t understand; because they are still alive they think you can just start contact with them again as the solution to feeling upset about the situation. Sometimes there is no going back with bein in NC, from either party’s perspective.
Disclaimer: I absolutely do not equate my feelings with anyone who has lost a loved one.