Please. Help me get DS to sleep.

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I can't take it anymore, he's been crying every twenty minutes since he went to bed at 7. It's been the same the last four nights. I don't know if it's teething, a cold, or whatever. He's had calpol, bottles, we've tried co-sleeping, we've tried his cot, he's got a dummy, white noise is on, singing, rocking, fuck all is working. I've had about two hours sleep in four days I can't handle anymore.

Should add that he's 11 months.

And that I'm currently on a mattress next to his cot hoping he'll calm the fuck down and go to sleep 😩

Has he been to Drs, could be ear infection or teething ....worth getting him checked out tomorrow if he doesn't settle ( won't necessarily have temperature )

I think I'm going to have to just need to get through the next four hours I guess.

Hello OP. I feel your sleep deprived pain!

How has he been in the daytime, for these last 4 days?

Have you tried raising the head of his cot? Mine preferred to be on a gentle slope when they were teething or had a cold.

I am sorry to hear of your little ones sleepless nights but i can relate currently in hospital with my little one om oxygen with a bad chest.

get your little one seen by a dr in the morning

I've given raising the cot a try to be honest he's thrashing around so much it's not making a lot of difference.

Day time he's been okay, napping as usual, quite happy. Yesterday he was a bit whingy and I just put it down to teeth.

Mar I'm so sorry to hear you're both in the hospital. I hope your little one recoveries quickly.

Recovers

Sorry. Words just don't look right when I type them at the moment.

We've had another cuddle, and he's had some ibuprofen (tbh he's been up so long I didn't realise it had been about four hours since the calpol) to see if that helps, he's laying down for the minute at least. I desperately need a wee but I don't want to risk leaving the room and him noticing.

thank you op.

poor you.

its that horrible time of year with all the bugs. hopefully get him seen in morning keeo us updated.

Chamomile teething granules? Bonjela? Slightly frozen banana? 🍷??
Sorry to hear you are I hospital Mar.

When he naps, is he upright in a buggy or car seat, or flat out in his cot? How is his temperature and colour, (apart from red and hot from crying!). Any changes in his life or routine? How's his appetite and nappies?

If he's crying a lot, give him plenty of water to drink.

I feel for you, a remark which I know doesn't help. Mine always slept with me (safely), would have been the same as yours if he hadn't. Lots of people co-sleep now, it was more frowned on in years gone by, I got criticism but l found out later that nearly all his friends co slept too and then didn't feel so guilty.

It's nice having them next to you, they are so sweet and when they wake up they are happy. Lots of cuddles with mum and dad.

A bit much when they get to about fourteen years of course (joking).

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As long as there is nothing obviously wrong with him physically, give it a try. Most of us do.

No advice but thought I'd join as currently also up with my 11 month old. Thought she he wet through, changed her, fed her, sick everywhere (in our bed), stripped bed, feeding, crying, pinching and scratching me (comfort)...

We have been co sleeping a lot more recently as she has a horribly chesty cough and cold which won't budge and she won't sleep away from me or my boobs. Last night she was "feeding" almost constantly. Dr says it's a virus and to ride it out but it seems to be getting worse. Poor little bean!

So any tips welcome here too but thought you should know you're not alone 😫

... he's asleep

Black 9/10 naps in his cot, and is normally fast asleep within about ten minutes. He's been waking, sort of let's out a little Yelp or a whimper, then drops off to sleep again. No temperature, little bit red from crying, but otherwise normal colour. I had a quick check for rashes or anything, but again, nothing obvious. Eating a lot more than usual, and nappies are fine. There's just nothing obviously physically wrong with him other than his teeth

Thank you all. I think we'll go to the doctors tomorrow, just to rule anything else out. I'm going to try to get some sleep before he wakes up again!

Dr also told me I was creating bad habits by co sleeping and basically said I was letting her get away with what she wanted. Felt great after that appointment...!

At the moment I feel we have no choice though. Either we get some sleep all together, or no one sleeps!

Well done op!

Yes, get to sleep pronto!

And docs tomorrow, I think.

Probably teething and/or virus, but it will put your mind at rest.

How they torture us! It will pass, until the next time

Oh OP it's relentless isn't it. Currently up feeding my 6wo but I know what it is to be that sleep deprived from my middle child who really tested me.

Well done on getting him to sleep. I agree doctors tomorrow which will help you rule out (or in) anything medical. The yelp/whimper was a classic sign of over tiredness in both of mine. Even my 6wo does a mini whimper when trying to fall asleep.

I've never done this myself but I think if I were at the point you were at, with a child of that age, having tried everything that you have, I would change the scenery, so a story or going downstairs for 10 mins, something to break the cycle. Unless it's something medical, it sounds like he's in a bit of a rut. Thing is there's usually a reason behind it - it's just figuring it out. Could he be cold? It's that time of year.

Yay, well done

It sounds like you're having a fun night too, pineapple

I'd second Brizzle's tip of raising up the cot at the head end. Increase water intake, (not just milk), if tears, mucus and snottiness are being made which tend to dehydrate. If co-sleeping and you and DC can safely sleep (and feed) propped up, that will help with breathing, coughing and mucus/snottiness drainage. When we're riding out viruses here, they tend to get worse before they get better. Now, it's usually only at the worst point that I worry and consult a GP, and then usually find they're better the next day - Sod's Law!

With co-sleeping, some parents and medical or behavioural professionals are for or against, of course. For some it's an active choice, for others a needs must, and others would avoid it like the plague. Everyone is right. It's entirely personal choice, IME and IMHO.

Good luck with the rest of the night, and I hope your DC is better soon.

You and your's too, Mar.

Get back to sleep quick!

I'm also up, was up for 2 hours with 2 year old DD who's got a nasty cough and wanted cuddling but upright and her asleep. Now I'm up with 11 month old DS who's teething but also just grumpy because he won't sleep!

Hopefully you can get some sleep. I have to be up in an hour for work so just debating getting up anyway and making a cup of tea.

If this is a sudden change and say he's getting ill. Dd1 takes ages to get to sleep for a few days before she gets a cold. Dd2's sleep is disrupted for around a week before I notice sny signs of illness.

no sleep is awful. Hopefully you are back to normal soon.