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Present ideas for 80+ yr old auntie with dementia

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chocatoo · 03/12/2018 17:23

I'm really stuck for ideas - 80+yr old auntie moved into a home this year and is suffering quite badly with dementia. I live a way away so need to post a gift. Not sure whether alcohol is allowed. Thought of a photo but they are all too old so that's the plan for next year. She doesn't read or do puzzles. Budget £10-15. Help please! Thanks in anticipation!

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chocatoo · 03/12/2018 21:37

Again thank you so much for the suggestions. I'm going to give her a gift this year and reassess next year - the idea of giving something for everyone is definitely nice for the longer term.
The cushion is lovely but a little bit over my budget - I will keep an eye on the sale!
It's heart breaking but as I said before, at least she seems happy which helps me not to be too sad.

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Mumshappy · 03/12/2018 21:40

My grandma is 90 and has dementia and is in a care home. She likes colouring books and pencils. We always buy those little fragrance pouches to put in her wardrobe and drawers to keep her clothes smelling fresh

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 03/12/2018 21:44

www.unforgettable.org/companion-puppies
A bit over your budget, but check out the website for other gifts that might be suitable.

Music is a great stimulator of memories.
One lady in my mother's Care Home barely spoke and rarely interacted with anyone. Except when they had musical sessions when she was transformed, joined in and sang and danced.

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Pondock · 04/12/2018 04:12

I work with people living with dementia. There are some great ideas already posted. Also worth considering are those light bulbs that slowly rotate with changing colours. Works well in a table lamp rather than main light! People seem to find them mesmerizing. Also there is a light machine that displays stars on the ceiling. Not much money....just google. Wax bubble lamps....or the ones with plastic fish in are popular. Perfume or spacial soap is lovely. And finally a few bottles of bubbles to share with other residents. Instant happiness!

Broken11Girl · 04/12/2018 04:32

Aw I'm sure they'll allow a bit of alcohol at Christmas.
Could you make up a goody bag - miniatures of alcohol, some chocolate or biscuits or sweets or whatever nice food she likes, mini toiletries, makeup if she wears it, nice socks, gloves, mini hand warmers www.ebay.co.uk/bhp/microwave-hand-warmers etc.

FlyingMonkeys · 04/12/2018 04:51

DGM 'adopted' one of Dd's soft bodied baby dolls. It was her prized possession for cuddling, chattering to, and 'showing us'. We also played CDs of music from her generation. Colourful, soft and tactile things went down very well. As pp suggested soft fluffy bedsocks were also received very well. DGM lived at home with DM until she sadly passed away, and 'her baby' was definitely the main focus of her enjoyment up until the very end.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 04/12/2018 09:12

How about a realistic looking artificial plant in a pot that looks pretty but doesn't need watering, obviously.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/12/2018 09:37

Twiddle muffs or blankets go down very well with some dementia sufferers. Crafty types can make them.

My mother soon lost all interest in presents - certainly by the time she was bad enough to need a care home - was never aware that it was Christmas anyway, despite the home's lovely decorations, and could barely be bothered to open them.

However soft milk chocolates and fruit jellies always went down well, and I'd usually buy her a nice cosy cardigan - if I could find one with big buttons, not tiny fiddly ones, and pockets - she liked pockets - and it could be machine washed and tumble dried - not easy to find all that, I can tell you.
NB - If you do buy any clothing, make sure you mark it with her name - essential for anyone in a care home. Come to that, anything portable that's not edible should be named, including photo frames, and the photos inside (in case of dismantling - I've seen this,). People with dementia will so often wander about helping themselves to anything they fancy, so naming everything makes it easier for staff to return things to their rightful owner.

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