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Being unfaithful

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Bluecurtains11 · 02/12/2018 23:32

Ive posted about this situation before but there have been some changes since last time. I'm 35 & have been with my other half for 16 years, married for nearly 6. We have 3 beautiful children. He’s a good husband and is a great dad. He’s my best friend & I do love him.....but that’s about it. To put it bluntly, we haven't had sex in 2 years. I’m so desperately unsatified and unhappy. I've tried talking to him about this situation but he doesn't appear to think there's a problem & is quite happy to carry on as we are.....I'm not.

I have recently gone back to work after having a long time off to raise our children. I feel like suddenly I've got my life, confidence & independence back. I feel like I'm being known as "me" again & not just "the kids mum" or "someone's wife". It's gotten to the point where I'm that unhappy that I have met someone at work. I'm not proud of it, but I have started sleeping with him & am starting to develop really strong feelings for him to the point that I am thinking of leaving my husband, not to necessarily be with this other person as they have their own commitments, but just to be on my own.

I'm scared about what will happen, especially with my children. Our house in his name, cars in his name, I literally have nothing.
I’m so unhappy I don’t know what to do.

Please don't judge me too harshly, I know what I'm doing is not nice & I do feel guilty although not as much as I thought I would. Pretty sure that makes me a terrible person.

Any advice?
Thanks for reading

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grincheux · 03/12/2018 00:03

What a horrible situation to be in.

End one or the other. Just remember the grass always seems greener with someone new - once that honeymoon period and the excitement of sneaking around wears off, will you find yourself in the same situation just with no husband, no best friend, no house and no family? Think it through carefully. None of us can tell you what to do, I just hope whatever you choose ends up being for the best.

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