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Baby not sleeping - please help me

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 04:20

He is 11 weeks. He will go down on his crib and go to sleep but he wont stay asleep. I have been awake since 1.50.

Please please help me. Its been like this for a couple of weeks.

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 09:40

No one?

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3WildOnes · 02/12/2018 09:52

When he wakes up I assume you feed him and then what happens? If you put him back in his crib does he just cry? If you rock him what does he do? Are you keeping lights off? Is he sleeping too much in the day? Is he in any kind of sleep routine?

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 09:57

I feed, he goes back to sleep, i yry to wind. I lay him back in his crib and then sonetimes even only 10 mins later he is awake
I am trying a sleep routine but he is so tired in the day its very hard. Im on my knees.

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3WildOnes · 02/12/2018 10:03

I would Try to get him on a nap schedule in the day so that he is having most of his sleep at night. And make sure you nap when he does in the day. I would try to roughly follow the following schedule. Awake at 7am, nap 9-10, nap 12-2, nap 4.30-5.

3WildOnes · 02/12/2018 10:04

Do you have a husband/ partner at home? Are you bottle feeding or able to express enough milk for you oh to take over for a night so you can get a full nights rest?

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 10:21

I cant seem to express - he is EBF.

Thats exactly the schedule I try - he woke up at 9.30 today though so already out of whack.

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Frauline · 02/12/2018 10:24

Try to let him sleep in a sling if you can get one, or try a walk in the pram. It's not ideal as you won't be free but he's still tiny and maybe isn't ready to go in the crib yet.

Frauline · 02/12/2018 10:26

Ah sorry just realized it's night time that is a problem. Maybe something like a sleepyhead or you can try to make the crib more cosy?

Nothisispatrick · 02/12/2018 10:45

Does he stay asleep if you continue to cuddle him? 9 week old DD has a sleepy head so once she’s asleep we wait twenty mins (apparently how long it takes them to get into a deep sleep), then gently roll her into the sleepyhead in her Next2me crib, continue to cuddle for a few mins then pull away.

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 10:51

Nothis sometimes but its not a guarantee. He loves the sling. Will nap for hours.

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MrsL2016 · 02/12/2018 10:53

I would say it is a little early for a nap routine. A baby of that age needs lots of sleep and shouldn't be a awake too long between naps or may become overtired. I agree with what a PP said about making the crib more cosy. Can you warm it with a hot water bottle or wheat bag. Maybe put a muslin or t shirt in there that smells like you. I never used a sleepy head but I know a lot people find them useful because it gives baby that snuggled feeling.

MrsL2016 · 02/12/2018 10:54

Also try and differentiate between day and night sleeping. Lots of light and ambient noise in the day and quiet and dark at night.

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 10:55

MrsL yep we do the hot water bottle and the shirt that smells of you.

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holidaylady · 02/12/2018 10:56

Safe cosleeping saved me in a very similar situation. We all got sleep

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 10:58

Me..not you.

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katmarie · 02/12/2018 11:07

Have you tried swaddling? It worked very well with my little one when he was tiny. Also we found white noise very effective too. Good luck, it's so exhausting, I know.

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 11:11

holiday tried that - still wakes hourly.

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LivLemler · 02/12/2018 11:11

Have you considered silent reflux OP? Just wondering if the sleeping in the sling could be as much because he's upright as the heat and closeness to you.

Try hold him upright for at least half an hour after a feed, that will give the feed time to settle and might help if he has reflux. We needed a prescription for ranitidine for DD, then she slept much better and now at 7 months she's a great sleeper.

I wouldn't worry about routines or schedules - at that age they don't play ball and it just becomes another stick to beat yourself with, IME. Just don't let him get over tired, and grab every second of rest you can.

Flowers for you OP, it's so fucking hard.

TroyKing · 02/12/2018 11:21

Have you tried a baby swing?

Prices to suit different budgets

www.argos.co.uk/search/baby-swing/category:33021470/opt/sort:price/

I'm not one for gimmicks but I someone who uses one and the baby was very content in the swing.

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Mississippilessly · 02/12/2018 11:48

Troy its worth a go. We have a bouncer but he wont sleep in it

Liv did your LO cry when horizontal? He doesnt - but we get lots of arm waving and gymnastics. Dr gave him omeprazole because we suspected silent reflux but I am not convinced that is the problem.

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LivLemler · 02/12/2018 17:23

Mississippilessly yes, she was very unhappy lying down. Everyone would say to bring her for a walk in the pram, Hmm she'd just scream.

I hope she settles for you soon. It's unbearable having so little sleep. Flowers

PaddyF0dder · 02/12/2018 17:25

11 weeks is really young.

It is what it is. No solution but time. Get a bit of support so you can get a rest. It’ll get better.

30birthdayholiday · 02/12/2018 17:30

Could they be teething? My wee girl got teeth at 16 weeks, and I've heard of earlier.

Have you tried Anbesol, pain relief, or Calpol, incase it's teething pains. Hope it works for you

Littlebelina · 02/12/2018 17:31

What is he sleeping in? Blankets, sleeping bag or swaddle? If blankets have you tried the later two? DS would wake himself up by kicking off blankets, swaddling and then moving to a bag when he was a bit bigger helped. Dd is in a grosnug with arms in, going to try arms out soon.

If he is sleeping during the day are you making sure you sleep? Not ideal but at least you'll get some rest

impossiblecat · 02/12/2018 17:37

Could be a growth spurt and he simply needs a lot more milk. Lots of skin to skin can help this.

I'd give up on routines and just role with it. Sod the housework, rest when you can and get as much help as you can.