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If you said you weren’t sure you were hungry at teatime...

19 replies

PeridotCricket · 01/12/2018 12:55

...would your partner head off to the kitchen and cook themselves something with no further discussion. Or would they come back and say, I’m cooking ‘x’ do you fancy some?

You see I’d pop my head back round the door and say I’m cooking fish and chips do you want a couple of chips?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 01/12/2018 12:57

I would say do you want to to cook you some and you can have it later.

Flower777 · 01/12/2018 13:08

I think he would double check before cooking something.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 01/12/2018 13:10

He’d say (or I’d say if reversed) well I’m doing tea now for me and the kids, shall I save you some? And he or I would make a decision and say no I don’t fancy that I’ll make toast later if I get hungry.

JuditthIscariot · 01/12/2018 13:11

I double check. DP says he's not really hungry and I'll say "Well I'm putting XYZ in for me if you fancy some, it will take 40 minutes so you might be hungry by then..."

MeetOnTheSIedge · 01/12/2018 13:14

He'd probably check, but I wouldn't just say "I'm not very hungry", it'd be either "I'm not very hungry I'll sort myself something later" or "I'm not very hungry so don't do a big portion for me"

BillywigSting · 01/12/2018 13:19

I would double check and so would dp. Then the other would answer with "yeah go on just a small /half portion' or 'yes please I'll eat it later' or 'no thanks I'm really not hungry'.

Doesn't happen very often mind you, usually only when sick!

Nesssie · 01/12/2018 13:24

How can you not be sure if you are hungry? You are either hungry or
not. That vague answer alone would annoy me, I’d assume you meant not hungry, and cook myself something.

Bestseller · 01/12/2018 13:24

I think someone who needs to be asked if they want dinner at dinner time would be very annoying for thecook, so depending on my mood is either stop asking and just cook, then they can take it or leave it or I'd take them at their word and do nothing.

Not being sure is unhelpful and annoying IMO.

NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 01/12/2018 13:26

Check on the way in then if I wasn't hungry cook for themselves, because I'm more than capable of cooking for myself.

CantSleepClownsWillEatMe · 01/12/2018 13:44

I'd like to say I'd double check but if the I'm not sure I'm hungry thing is a regular occurrence I might decide to get on with it and leave partner to sort themselves out when they've finally managed to establish their own level of hunger Hmm.

Of course, if I was in the kitchen and partner decided they were in fact hungry, they could pop their head round and say 'Oh fish and chips good idea, could you put some on for me too please'. Or they could sit silently hoping I'll read their mind.

MadeForThis · 01/12/2018 14:08

I'm a big girl. If I'm hungry I'd say so. If I told DH I wasn't hungry I wouldn't expect him to cook for me. Or check again 2 mins later.

FrogFairy · 01/12/2018 14:23

I don’t have a partner but if I were the cook I would ask if they fancied a small portion of what I was cooking, or a meal plated up to reheat later, or even just wanted a something small like a few fish fingers cooked at the same time as the chips.

I would most definitely not go ahead, cook myself a meal then sit and eat it.

EmbraRocks · 01/12/2018 14:37

Am similar to can't sleep depends on how much previous they had for angling for stuff and purposeful lack of succinctness and needing pandering!

blueskiesandforests · 01/12/2018 14:40

No. He wouldn't eat either if I didn't cook, or would get himself crisps :/

But then if I said I was hungry he wouldn't cook either.

He only cooks for himself and the kids if I have late shift and am physically absent from the house. Even then dc1 is more likely to cook than DH.

I'm not sure how I'm hungry is a weird thing to say. Cooking just for yourself also seems a bit weird to me.

I cook for 5 people every night I'm home. I never ask people whether they are hungry in order to leave them out if they aren't. We all sit together at the table. If anyone isn't hungery they still sit with us but don't have to eat, or just have a small portion.

blueskiesandforests · 01/12/2018 14:41

*whether not how

theworldistoosmall · 01/12/2018 14:45

If I say I'm not hungry anyone who knows me knows to just not bother cooking me something because I am not hungry. They know that when I am hungry I will then go and make myself something.

If someone popped their head around the door and said oh I'm just making xx do you want me to put in some xx for you, I would tell them as I said, I am not hungry.

FlyingMonkeys · 01/12/2018 14:53

If I said I wasn't hungry I'd expect them to believe me.

Holidayshopping · 01/12/2018 14:55

I think someone who needs to be asked if they want dinner at dinner time would be very annoying for thecook, so depending on my mood is either stop asking and just cook, then they can take it or leave it or I'd take them at their word and do nothing.

This. I expect if we got the other person’s side here, there might be some back story.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 01/12/2018 14:58

No I wouldn't check. If you want me to cook your tea, ask me like a grown up.

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