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Weirdest compliments and what people love about YOU

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NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 01/12/2018 07:29

I think it would be a nice idea to talk about what your weirdest compliment has been and what people love about you as a person.

Mine was my closest friend commenting that I smell like nothing Grin. I'm autistic and hypersensitive to smell so wash at least three times a day but only shower once every two days (usually in the morning because I'm conscious about sweating during the night) and while I still think that I smell. I can smell my own body odor apparently no one else can and that makes me feel amazing because I am paranoid about that.

Same friend while drunk kept commenting on how I wear my heart on my sleeve and love everyone and everything with a ferocity she'd never encountered before, she did also comment on my difficulty/refusal to allow others to love me in return but she understands why that is but mainly that she and our other friends and even my/our acquaintances know that all they need to do is send a message saying they're sad or ill or just need a friend and I'll be on my way over to mother/fuss over or feed them before I've finished reading the message. Which she understands where that comes from after she met my mother and aunt and some of my sisters and we're all very much that way inclined.

A different friend and housemate who was upset the other night about her uni assignment stress said that I'm a great hugger because I'm so nice and squashy but strong and solid so you can feel the strength in me when I hug, like I'm hugging with everything I have and will continue to do so until all of their hurt goes away. Almost like I'm trying to physically hold them together and piece them back together with force of will and love alone. Which was also nice because I don't often hug others because I can never tell if they are ok with it or not.

A different housemate calls me a 'church lady in training' (houseful of Christians so not a dig) which is someone who works with the kids groups, bakes and volunteers for the church regularly and who can engage non-christians in chats about the lord and bring them to church with an ease most people can't because I'm always so upfront and smiley. Which I'm not but apparently the image I give is a positive person whos always available for a chat about anything but I think that's just because I'm northern Grin. He has also commented that I am a vulcan and far more pragmatic and logical than a human has any reason to be but my response to that is Autism Grin.

Another housemate refers to me as the insane flat mum. Which I'm not gonna argue with because it fits. Luckily the rest of the house is just as nutty as I am.

Different housemate seeks me out as a sounding board late at night to talk about relationships in every and any form and how to deal with things and confronting things that he has difficulty with due to lack of knowledge and exposure. His dad is a minister and his views have been shaped on a lot of old fashioned doctrine that the bible actually says very little about and we've been working through that and he's doing a lot better when faced with these things and is happier for it.

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NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 01/12/2018 08:22

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CaitlinsYellowSocks · 01/12/2018 16:06

These are lovely compliments - you sound great!

My husband says one of the reasons he loves me is because I'm really good at getting the answers on Only Connect - not sure it's such a useful quality as yours though.

LittleSwede · 01/12/2018 16:31

You sound lovely OP! Smile

DH said that what I sometimes see as a weakness in myself is also/actually a strength. That is that I'm really approachable, friendly and very have a very positive attitude (on the outside at least!). Apparently this is why I am "good" at teaching the insecure and those with very low self esteem (I am specialist teacher). I've had some lovely comment and feedback from students along the same lines. I tend to put myself down for "failing" at controlling a room of 30 rowdy teen-agers but on s nice to one or in a small group I feel that I can actually teach in an effective way.

I think I'm autistic too, DD has an actual diagnosis of ASD and when doing all the reading about autism in girls during the process things started to make sense.

KeepServingTheDrinks · 01/12/2018 17:57

Those are such lovely things to say about you, OP. I particularly like the hugging one.

I've said this one before on a different thread, but when I was 17 my then BF said "I'm glad you're not very pretty because then other boys won't fancy you". He thought it was a compliment and couldn't understand why I wasn't particularly pleased.

My work colleagues quite often tell me I'm a good listener. I'm very pleased by this, because my job involves doing a lot of listening, but I don't think it's especially accurate, unfortunately.

NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 01/12/2018 22:01

@CaitlinsYellowSocks, I wish I could get the answers on only connect, it's one of the few quiz shows I cannot figure out. Grin

@LittleSwede, 30 rowdy teens in a room sounds hellish. It's nice that your husband and students have commented on your abilities, they must value you a lot. Smile

@KeepServingTheDrinks , that's' a shocking thing for your bf to say, hopefully he became an ex soon after. It's nice that they think your a good listener, even if you don't feel like one take it as your friendly and people automatically want to talk to you and get your opinions.

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KeepServingTheDrinks · 01/12/2018 23:45

CaitlinsYellowSocks - I'm only good at the missing vowels round!

NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound - he really meant it as a compliment. That was the saddest thing about it! We were together about 18 months a very long time ago! I try to be a good listener... I've learnt it means keeping your gob shut, which I'm not great at, but getting better!

Thisisit777 · 02/12/2018 00:02

My husband thinks I’m calm.

I don’t feel calm but I must emit calmness in the home and that secretly makes me feel like maybe I’m not the useless mother I think I am.

NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 02/12/2018 00:24

@Thisisit777, oh that must be lovely, I give off the aura of mani energy Grin I'd love to be calmer.

@KeepServingTheDrinks, I mean I've had similar with a male friend who when I commented that I need to lose weight said that my weight is fine because there was no way I'd weigh more than him. I'd hope not because he's over 6ft and very muscular where as I'm under 5ft Grin. I did make me giggle though because he was trying to be comforting and our female friend who was sitting with us was literally sat shaking her head with her head in her hands. I was a fabulous car crash of an interaction and I love it. They try their best don't they Grin

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NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 02/12/2018 00:25

@Thisisit777, thats supposed to read manic. And I am 100% certain that your a wonderful mother Flowers

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Thisisit777 · 02/12/2018 00:26

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pallisers · 02/12/2018 00:32

Those are lovely OP.

The single best compliment I've had in my life was from my son (age 20). My dd had done this thing at the dinner table where we each give a compliment to everyone else. He said I was the funniest and most likeable person he knew. I will treasure that forever (mind you he didn't buy me a present for my birthday this year - so much for humour and likeability :))

HappyEverIftar · 02/12/2018 03:04

This happened very recently - I was at a big party and needed to use the loo. As I came out and began washing my hands, I got asked if I was a nurse as I washed my hands so well Confused Grin. Later transpired she was a nurse and was hoping to recognise a kindred spirit Smile.

Weirdly proud of tha!

HappyEverIftar · 02/12/2018 03:04

*that

MawkishTwaddle · 02/12/2018 03:09

I was once referred to by a friend as ‘a wry sage’.

I liked that.

ohtheholidays · 02/12/2018 03:36

What a lovely idea for a thread and you sound awesome OP!

My DC's friends have told my DC that I'm like a mum,fun auntie and bestfriend all rolled into one when I look out for them, that was really lovely and made me Blushand left me with a lump in my throat and wet eyes.

My Mum used to call me Wonderwomen(we lost her a few years ago now)she said it was because I was the only person she knew that could raise 4DC single handed whilst working part time,going to college and sitting as the Vice chair for surestart,that was one of the nicest things anyone ever said to me and I'll never forget that.

MY DH and our 5DC call me Mrs Christmas/Mrs Claus which I love because I do love Christmas and I'll spend ages looking for just the right gift for everyone and we have 45 that we buy for at Christmas,I also make sure that I do more for other people near Christmas and I give to lots of different charitys at Christmas time.

My friends tell me I'm like a lioness when it comes to the people I love because they know I would risk my life and safety to keep all of those I love safe.

But the nicest one was when my niece called me Mum,it was at my Mum's funeral,so her Nan's and she'd never got on well with her Mum my SIL(through no fault of my nieces)and she was about to leave the wake(she lives hours away now)and she came to find me and gave me the biggest hug anyone has ever given me in all my life and said I have to go now Mum and I love you,(she's an adult herself and my DC were there and they heard her and they all thought it was lovely)and I said I love you to my darling girl.

The fact that she loves me like a Mum was on of the most loving feelings I've ever experienced,she'd lived with me for a while when she was younger and we've always been very close and I've always loved her like one of my own DC and it felt amazing that she knew that and felt confident enough in our relationship to call me that name.

DavedeeDozyBeakyMickandTich · 02/12/2018 03:50

Everyone at work says things like 'i love your outlook' 'you're so positive/chilled' etc which I find bizzare as I'm truly anything but inside! I suppose I have a general outlook of not judging others or speaking harshly about people (unlike pretty much everyone I work with!) which is something I actively practice so that may be why. Also if I have an issue at work I don't sit around complaining about it I go and get it sorted out, can't bear people just sitting around moaning.

MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 02/12/2018 03:50

I went for a smear once and the gynecologist (a woman) exclaimed that I had a beautiful, pink healthy vagina. 😂😂😂😂

Didn't quite know what to do with that one.

My brother told me at 14 that I had nice knees. 😀

And DS said to me "you're like R2D2 mum, you clear up all the cr*p, solve all the problems and never get the medals.

At least he notices. 🙃

Bloodybridget · 02/12/2018 07:46

My DP really admires how I respond to Jehovah's Witnesses who approach us in the street - she cringes away, I give them a nice smile, say I'm not a Christian, no to the leaflet thanks very much, no I don't think there will ever be an end to suffering but we can all help by being kind to each other, etc. This makes me amazing according to DP - lucky me being able to impress so easily, eh? Wink

GrumpyOldMare · 02/12/2018 07:54

From a very dear friend/ex boss ''you've got balls,Grumpy'' after I faced up to him and told him he was wrong (he admitted he was after telling me I had balls)

RunSweatLaughAndLatte · 02/12/2018 08:35

My son called me his superhero because I fixed one of his toys that was broken

FrenchFancie · 02/12/2018 08:42

I was once told i’d make a great ‘plus size’ model - I was a size 12 at the time and thought it a bit rude. Person then followed it up with ‘...or a hand model...’ yeah, thanks.

I don’t think I get very many compliments but a few months ago another choir member said I was a ‘good solid alto’ in my choir, which given the fact that i’m very uncertain as to my singing ability made me feel wonderful!

NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 02/12/2018 14:34

@pallisers, that's so sweet Smile, if you can't short change your parents with gifts then who can you Grin.

@HappyEverIftar, that's amazing. I'd be proud of that too [simile], any compliment from a nurse is amazing.

@MawkishTwaddle, love that.

@ohtheholidays, you sound amazing and you have an amazing family that obviously treasure you. Smile

@DavedeeDozyBeakyMickandTich, the ability to just get on with things and act on your own initiative and work without judging is something that not many people can do, it's a valuable skill.

@MickHucknallspinkpancakes, that's one I've never heard before Grin.
Or having nice knees haha. I like the comparison to R2D2, it's great that he notices what you do.

@Bloodybridget, that's something I've not managed. My response is usually please leave me alone.

@GrumpyOldMare, it's great when people can acknowledge what it takes to stand up to someone and admit that they're wrong.

@RunSweatLaughAndLatte, that's so sweet Smile.

@FrenchFancie, that's a backhanded compliment if I've ever heard one, but it's great that they appreciate you in the choir Smile.

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