My husband is extremely conscious of the fact that he is overweight

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My husband about 35 years of age, 5'10 and 14 stone. He used to be 18 stone when in college and lost the weight right after which means he has been at the 14 stone mark for more than 10 years now. He doesn't look overweight now because he is very conscious about what he wears. But he never ever comes with me to any places like beaches or water parks because he is so conscious. How can I convince him that it doesn't matter and that he should enjoy himself without thinking about what he would look like. He gets very angry if I even suggest going to such places.

Does he want to lose weight, is he happy how he is or does he not like the activities you're suggesting?

He’s not overweight, is he? And even if he was, he should still be able to go to beaches and pools and anywhere he wants. Sounds like he may have body dysmorphia or a warped view of his own body.

Either way, it’s very limiting for you to live like this.

How’s everything else in your relationship?

He wants to lose more weight and he is trying... but he has been trying for the last 10 years and it goes up and down but there isn't much he can do about the excess skin which means that he is always super conscious about wearing fitted clothes etc. He's never tried these activities (except once when we first met about 10 years ago) and he never wants to due to the flab.