Grumble about contraception

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DC is 10mo and I’ve not used any contraception since he was 6mo (had the implant between when DC was 2-6mo but it didn’t agree with me so I got it taken out). Sex life is FINALLY back on track (yay!) but DH wants another baby now. I definitely don’t- yet. DH doesn’t like condoms (classic...), but I don’t particularly want to go back on my mini pill because I’m enjoying being drug-free! What would you do? I guess I need to go back on the pill, but I’m fed up with being the one who has to pump myself full of hormones. Mind you, it’s less hassle than a pregnancy. Urgh. As the title says, grumble.

Hopeful bump for the evening crowd...

What about the coil?

Understand though. I don't necessarily want to go back on the pill and condoms aren't our favourite form but sometimes necessary!

Yeah, I did think about the coil. But again - hormones, or with the copper coil another device, insertion etc. Just annoys me, why should it be always my body going through this?? Guess that’s just biology. And I’m the one putting the brakes on, so it’s my “choice” in one sense... We’ve been using the pull-out “method” this month. 🙄 Thanks for replying, I was feeling lonely 😂

I'm using a diaghphram.

No condom = no sex

Hormones can do all kinds of crazy shit to you. Depression, total loss of libido, weight gain, anxiety etc is not equal to "I don't like condoms"

Does the pill affect you; or is it the idea that you don't like? You could try another type to see if it's better?

I don't mind the pill really; it works pretty flawlessly for me, but I took a break from it and DP was happy to don condoms for the duration. I'd be a bit annoyed if he wasn't, to be honest...

Otherwise female condoms are supposed to be getting more popular, or there's a non hormonal coil, I believe, or an implant?

It might depend on how long you want to be pregnancy free for; though.

Yeah the whole contraception thing is shite. I don't get on with hormonal stuff at all well either, like so many women.

I used persona and avoided sex at the most fertile times between DC because a pregnancy wouldn't have been a total disaster even though I wanted to avoid it a while. Ended up with only planned pregnancies.

Copper coil for 9 years after last DC. Had it inserted ASAP after birth, maybe 6 or 12 weeks, can't remember. It was the least offensive thing I ever used but still not trouble free

Last month I finally bit the bullet and got sterilised,TBH it still hasn't hit me yet that I never have to worry about it again.

I tried female condoms one. Fucking hell what a nightmare those things are. Easy enough to use but just like enormous, rustley bin bags. Yak.

Even better than the pill to put one off sex

The diaphragm is an interesting idea. For some reason it strikes me as retro! Female condoms are... unappealing. Thing is, I’m the one with the super high sex drive atm! So no condom = no sex will punish me more than him 😂

I can only take the mini pill, and it was fine, but I like feeling “normal” - skin, libido, emotions, everything is going great! I don’t want to risk changing it all for the worse... But mostly I think I’m just cross that I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I do use a tracking app but this is my first month with a period since I got pregnant, so scared of relying on it too heavily...

The GP I saw to get the diaphragm said hardly anyone uses it now, she used to prescribe it a lot when she was younger (I'd say she was mid to late 50's).
I didn't want hormonal, didn't want the copper coil and am not mad keen on condoms myself.
She talked me through options and was happy I'd already researched things myself, then did an exam for size and fit and got one ordered in.
I've been using it for about 4 months and am pretty happy with it.

I mean a bit squeamish about how deep it needs to be inserted? I assume it’s a more, ahem, “hands on” task than a tampon?

I suspect I’ll go back on my mini pill. Still grumbling though. Currently in a game of chicken with DH regarding the pullout method- he wants a baby but doesn’t want the emotional fallout if I get pregnant... AF due in 5 days so I’m quite relaxed about taking a risk, but at the same time would judge the stupidity of anyone taking my actions! Confused.

Yes definately hands on, although I use a mooncup so am used to that, just the positioning is different.