Any Jewish people around? I need advice about Friday night dinner

[MirandaGoshawk]

My neighbour is an elderly Jewish lady, on her own, and tonight she is hosting a traditional dinner, and she's invited people from her synagogue, and DH and I! We aren't Jewish, and I don't want to get anything wrong. I've googled and still have two questions:

What are the greetings? Do I say Shalom Shabbat, and if someone says it to me, say Shabbat Shalom in return?

Secondly, google says women shouldn't wear trousers to the Friday night meal. But I get the impression that the people from this synagogue are quite liberal (I know some have been to the Gay Pride Parade in Tel Aviv, for example) so will it be OK for me to wear smart trousers, do you think?

TIA

Shalom! (Sorry couldn't resist - if you haven't seen the show you won't get the reference).

I wouldn't worry too much. I presume the lady knows you're not Jewish?

You can either say Shabbat Shalom or Shalom, or even hello. And I wouldn't worry too much about dress as long as you're presentable.

I'd say Shabbat Shalom if you want but not Shalom Shabbat. If you know they are quite liberal I would have thought trousers are ok but nothing too low cut and have your shoulders covered (as you would in this weather anyway). DH may be given a kippah to wear but no fret about taking your own.

OK great, that's very helpful. Thank you.

@the poorest - nope, no idea! Yes, she knows we're not Jewish. But I had a Bible-studying, strict (Christian) upbringing, so I'm familiar with the stories of the patriarchs, and about the original Passover, the Temple etc, but from an outsider's pov, which is presumably why she feels comfortable about inviting us. I am very excited to be included tonight!

Shabbat Shalom is used to greet someone on Shabbat and also said in return..
She may just give your husband a kippah fo the Shabbat blessings.. candles,wine and bread..
Trousers will be fine, just a modest top...
Shabbat Shalom !