Getting my daughter to settle

[Mumofbeth161118]

HELP!!!
I’m a first time mum to a 12day old little girl. We haven’t had the easiest of starts due to labour complications. We’ve been out of hospital for 5 days after a week stay, whilst in hospital [redacted] would sleep in the cot fine, since coming home she won’t settle to sleep at night unless on my chest and when I do try to put her down she wakes straight away. I’m also finding it difficult to fill her, she is having on average 8-10 70ml feeds a day and at times cluster feeds for hours. I’m currently laid on my sofa with my daughter asleep on my chest, I’ve tried to put her down twice and both times she woke straight away and got upset.
Any help and advice would be great.
Thanks in advance
Xxx

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No advice because it’s normal. Cluster feeding is normal. Wanting to sleep on you is normal. It’s what babies do. Google the fourth trimester if you want.
You could try making sure her cot is nice and warm, I used a Sleepyhead as well. I have also co-slept safely. Also maybe something with your smell on it. Don’t worry you are creating bad habits. 12 day olds don’t have habits etc.

Cluster feeding is perfectly normal, sorry! She has a teeny tummy, she cannot physically hold very much.

Do you burp her after every feed? DD4 was a bit like this and it was because she was a bugger for hanging on to her wind. Or it could be colic, which DD2 had there are remedies for. Have you been discharged from the MW visiting service? If not then ask at your next visit, if you have then ask to see your HV and talk about it.

Try putting her down in her cot awake rather than when she is asleep, and I found swaddling to be useful too. Take care love, we've all been there and it does get better

You could try putting one of your worn t-shirts where you intend for her to sleep so she can still smell you. Good luck, it's exhausting

This is all totally normal, and exhausting. Research the fourth trimester. Good luck, it will pass.