Hi so I’m wondering if anyone has went through anything similar or has any advice what I could do. It’s a family matter so I’m getting very annoyed and not sure if I can bite my tongue much longer... I have two brothers one that’s 19 and one that is 26 and both of them have done drugs and both brothers drink every weekend where as I have never ever done drugs and I don’t drink apart from occasionally and that’s literally one glass and I never ever finish it... I get called ‘boring’ off my family however I don’t see myself being boring just because I don’t drink. I’m 23 years old and have a 3 year old to look after and my priorities are on him. I have always worked apart from going on maternity leave and me and my partner live together. I’ve been in a strong relationship for 4/5 year and we both have goals in life which we wish to achieve for our little family. Anyway get back on track so my oldest brother went down the wrong path went with the wrong people, got into drugs and drink and was always getting locked up for fighting on a weekend, he got my parents into a LOT of debt which they paid off for him but he doesn’t bother with them, doesn’t call or see them only very rare and that’s only when he wants something. Cut a very long story short my brother has two children and is in a very unstable relationship, doesn’t really have his life right especially when he has such young children... but what’s bugging me is the sun shines out of the .... no matter what bad they do my parents speak so highly of them for example they will get jobs that they just leave but because they’re in jobs ‘ohh I’m so proud you have stuck at it’ then brag to my family about it blah blah blah but shouldn’t they be working? Shouldn’t they be getting their lives on track? I thought this was normal... why should they get praised for doing something what is normal? I do it every single day?! I just feel like they’re to hard on me and if I do anything just the slightest thing they come down hard on me but they don’t with the boys! I don’t get it. I make so much effort with my parents I will bend over backwards for them when the lads don’t. I go up and see them and if they need anything I get it but if the boys do it, it’s like they’ve handed over 1 million pounds. I try my very best and it’s not that I needed to be praised as I’m an adult but just something rather than if I do something wrong they come down hard on me. I don’t know if I’m being over sensitive over the situation but it’s bugging me... what can I do?!
I could go on but I’d write an essay but can’t say too much. Thank you