PLEASE help me. Going mad. 1yo won’t sleep without boob

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My 13mo won’t sleep/go back to sleep without the boob. I want to stop breastfeeding now because of it, I’ve got a strong bedtime routine but she just screams & screams if I/someone else tries to get her to sleep any other way.
I’m getting desperate now to (selfishly) want to go out past 7pm and be able to leave her with DH/DM.
My DH works away Monday - Friday so I’m on my own during the week.

Shes also waking almost hourly which I assume is because she only knows how to feed to sleep. She’s in my bed because of this but now I feel like enough is enough and I want her in her own room and cot for the sake of us both.

I am so so so tired :( please help me

Gosh it’s hard when they are screaming. You have my sympathies.
Unfortunately you’re asking her to break a established routine and start a new one, it’s always going to be hard. You just need to make the decision to do it and stay resolute in the face of the screaming. It will take a few days and it will be hard but it will be the best for all of you if this is what you want to do.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/1394888-What-worked-for-us-Hope-this-helps

You might find this thread helpful. It worked for my eldest.

Increase her portions of food and introduce more snacks. Also put a water bottle in her cot (I found it helper to put glow in the dark stickers on the bottle). Every time she wakes up, give her the water bottle. Good luck OP

Hi OP, i could have written this post myself. I stopped bf my daughter for the same reasons at 14 months, I had just had enough. It isn't selfish to want to go out for the evening at all, we might be parents but we are still people! Does your DD have a dummy? My DD loved to suck and initially i wasn't going to give her a dummy but I had to to stop her needing the boob. It worked, she weaned a lot easier after that. I just cut her down 1 feed at a time until there was only 1 left and then just stopped. Replaced feeds with water, she seemed to adjust quite well. Good luck!

It really is exhausting at times, isn’t it?
If you’re dead set on night weaning there’s a gentle method here
sarahockwell-smith.com/2014/08/10/how-to-gently-night-wean-a-breastfed-baby-or-toddler/