Do you tell the mum if a child’s misbehaved on a play date?

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If you’re friends with the mum? DS’s best friend often comes to play and he can be a little shit at times. I pull him up on it. Mum thinks he’s an angel. We’re quite good friends. If my DS was behaving like that i’d want to know so that I could stop it continuing. Not sure what to do.

I do and have mentioned it. That said, a good friend of DS's is round tonight and they've both been ridiculous at dinner... but lack of table manners isn't something I'd say anything about. It's for when they're mean or break something or cause upset to other DC.

Id mention it but don't make a big deal. Kids often behave differently for their parents than elsewhere.

I would tell mum if it was really bad. Would not have them back if it was too much hassle though. And if mum asked why I would tell her as diplomatically/kindly as possible.

I would mention it, because I'd want to know if it was my child. Something like "we had a bit of silly behaviour today!" and see if she asks for details.

I would just say what happened without any labels on it. just facts and only if it was something that upset either of them or caused damage.

No I always lie if I don’t know the parent super well. If a child is an absolute nightmare then I try to avoid having them over again. But I have to say I’ve had a couple who have just been terrible, both times at separate birthday parties at home.like really really badly behaved. I just didn’t have the bottle to say- err no they didn’t behave they were a right pain in the arse. Which is what would have come out of my mouth if I’d not repressed it.

I wouldn’t tell someone who i didn’t know well,I’d just think it’s there problem,I’m not getting involved and I’d not bother inviting them again. I feel like I owe it to my friend to let her know so she can deal with it. I’ll do it light heartedly-it’s not stuff that upsets DS, it’s no manners, cheeky, showy off behaviour. I took them to a soft play place today and he was cheeky to a member of staff,I told him off myself but it’s not the first time.

I lie and say theve been angels . It’s not my place to say theve been a little shite and my dd is no easy one.