My 10 year old daughter has no friends at school

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My daughter, is of course not perfect, but is genuinely caring,funny and intelligent has been struggling with friends since year 2. She is desperately upset feeling she must be horrible or doing something wrong (of course I have reassured her she isn't). She seems to get friendly with one or two girls each year then gets rejected/excluded. We are again hearing she is being told 'theres no room' for her to play a game, she can't sit with them at lunch etc. These girls seem to form a clique and my daughter is never part of that. We have been in to school several times before and things pick up for a while then fall down again. I try asking for play dates and get excuses over and over so stop asking. She does do activities outside school and enjoys them but they don't lead to actual friendships. I hate to see her like this and the issue keeps coming back. Any advice please??

My DD is similar. She is in year 6, and appeared to have quite a few friends in ks1, but not since. She has 2 friends, who are both boys. There is a couple of girls who are sometimes her friends, but apparently their other friends won't let them play with DD. The school did a Circle of Friends group in year 5. I am not entirely sure what they did there, but she enjoyed it, one of her male friends went to, and the children all got on in the group even if it didn't carry over to the classroom/ playground. I tell her that she will meet new people at secondary school and there is more likely to be other people she gets on with. I really hope that is true.

One thing I have noticed over the years on MN is people saying their dc are nice. Being nice whilst an admirable quality can also amount to dull and boring. I say this as one of the girls who was nice at school and it honestly did not go in my favour. I did have a couple of really nice friends but noticed the huge difference due to my sibling.

My sister was a bit of a cow but one of the most popular kids at the school. She was and still is a risk taker, a little unpredictable and authority challenging and people have always loved her for it. As well as the other children the teachers would always choose her as lead in school plays etc.

So I was fine with my couple of friends, I a in touch with one 40 year shence but it was odd being related to Queen Bee and seeing the difference on a close level.