When to try for DC2? Young Mum

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DC1 is 13 months.

DH is completely set on the idea of 2, and then he's promised a vasectomy. I was comfortable and happy with 1 but I'm prepared to compromise at 2.

We have a short window in the sense that DH isn't keen on having any further children beyond 30 (he is now 26).

I have a condition meaning my fertility isn't great, we are very lucky to have our current DC.

I'm 21. I've just landed a very good job, my salary has increased and I am very happy. I'm in a fortunate position career wise,
I don't know anyone else my age in anything similar. My sensible hat says wait another 2/3 years before trying again, at least.

DC1 is a terrific sleeper, great company. Although still glued to the bloody breast.

What would you do?

I originally said to DH definitely no more DC, as I'm thrilled with what we can give just one child and the life and freedoms we could continue to have. Part of me wonders if I should just act on this fleeting brudy phase

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We thought about what was our smallest desirable age gap, and started TTC DC2 when DC1 was 9 months off that age.

Idea being that this way we wouldn’t feel too overwhelmed if I get pregnant straight away.
I guess that our minimum gap would probably have been smaller if we’d had concerns about fertility.

Why has your husband set a cut off age of 30? That would make you 25 which is still v young.

Pickle Mostly because of age gap I think

Personally I'm a big fan of having children very close together in age.. it makes life tiring but easier... they follow each other to toddler groups, nursery, school, and their interests are more likely to align.
However I was a Forces wife so my career was on the back burner from day one, which may have swayed my decision
I had three under 3 and it was great...never regretted it (and went on to have a 4th) ..they are very close now as young adults , and I'm still young enough to have a life (of sorts, when I can be bothered!)

I wasn't as young as you 24, for my first and 29 by no 4 but it was the right decision for us, and we have a very close happy family.

I don’t think there is a perfect time. It’s all “swings and roundabouts”

I had a very small gap and the first 2yrs were bloody hard, but now I think I have it easier than friends with a wider age gap between their children. Being close in age, they have similar needs and interests, do same type of activities etc.

Friends with wider age gaps have complained about their children’s different needs. On days out - the children are often into different things, age/height restrictions. They are at different stages so don’t really play much together.

But then they had the advantage of being able to spend 1:1 time with each child when they were very young (as eldest was at school by then)

I dont think anyone can answer this for you. It sounds like you have got a good thing going with your career. Is the maternity package good?
Id wait till baby is off boob personally, purely for your own body to recover its iron calcium etc otherwise pregnancy, bf abd work in tandem could be exhausting.
If you then have babies close together the pluses are they should bond well early and that your early years dedication is over soon and you can commit thereon more to work.