How to survive maternity leave first time mum

[2018mum]

Hi all,

Just wanting some sound advice as I am a first time mum and it’s been couple of months since having my baby.

Feels daunting to say the least but I am fortunate I’m mobile and recovery is on the mend. Just would like some advice as I’m not used to being a stay at home mum of how to survive these dark winter months. Feel enclosed and a bit dark and gloomy when I am at home with just me and the baby till my husband comes home although there is a lot to be done! I have been out to seen friends, family but due to work commitments they have it isn’t the case every day.

Plus I enjoy my own space to have time for me to do things how I like to and get into a routine with my baby. I Just want to know ideas to pass the time, also what activities to do with the newborn. A bit apprehensive to take baby to any classes as she has yet to have her 1st set of jabs.

I don’t really have many friends that are mums so I feel i don’t have a lot in common with my usual network of people if that makes sense?

It’s just bringing me a bit down I am trying to keep myself busy and doing things. It’s tough with newborn as I’m stopping and starting chores with baby’s pattern. I feel guilty for feeling this way I jus never knew it would be this hard :-(. Can someone shed some light please thank you! X

Download the app Hoop! Has all the activities going on in your area. That's how I found a tribe of fab mums x

Not sure if this has been said already - but do you have a nearby Children's Centre? Our one does free group sessions on most weekdays and they've been a life saver for me! You can meet other mums easily there.

Our local health visitor team run free post natal groups so it would be worth asking your health visitor.

I didn't do NCT but attended NHS antenatal classes. There's loads out there that's free if you look for it.

Local libraries often run baby groups.

Thank you everyone! I will look into local children’s centre. I never managed to make any antenatal class due to my baby coming early that expected but I have experience taking care of a baby so it’s been ok.

It’s just getting used to being home with the baby is getting some taking to. I need to add some interaction in my life and activity for my baby too guidance would be good with like minded mums.

I’ve done a lot of googling tonight having a bit of a hangover I think lol but I’ve discovered loads so I’m sure I will incorporate something quite quickly there so much out there xx

@2018mum If you're nearby (think you said West Yorks? I am north) try Dreamtime baby massage Wakefield, they're probably on Facebook. I did the York one, it's just lovely. And lots of time after to chat, drink tea etc. They're really kind, gentle groups which both me and my son loved. I was very upset when he got too old for it (he used to walk off mid session!!)

I’m based near Leeds & Bradford I’ll have a google and see what is nearby. Bless ya they do grow up rather too fast x