Feeling hurt

[Fenellapitstop]

Firstly I know other people have things going on in their lives. I know that everyone needs to deal with their stuff first, but, I'm feeling hurt and like no one cares.

I'm at the tail end of my divorce, my stbexh has made things difficult every step of the way.

My house sale is due to complete on Tuesday, I'm having to move into a hotel for a week due to my rental not being ready, my dog is having to go into kennels as no one will take her. No one has come around to help me pack up or even for a chat.

I'm having issues at work which have been going on for over a year but will hopefully resolve. I minimise this issues but it is a scary situation to be in.

I'm part of a huge family, I have 3 siblings, more aunts and uncles than fingers and too many cousins. They know whats been happening but none of them call or visit. I opened my watts app messages today to see that a lot of them are meeting up today again. None of them ever visit me even though I try and visit them.

I don't understand why none of them seem to care about me. I text them and message them asking how they all are. I've called one of my sisters every couple of days for the past month, she never answers, she never returns my calls. She does message back, most recently to say she was with her friends.

Am I doing something wrong?

Sorry to hear that, Fenella. Sometimes I wash I had a big family, but it seems they cause more trouble than it's worth. I suppose everyone's busy, everyone thinks someone else will help you and actually no one gets round to it. Do you actually ask, or do you just wait for someone to offer?

I have got some people from my work helping me with the actual move. I've always offered to help my sisters and followed through by actually helping them. I haven't asked my sisters to help. We were brought up to help without being asked. I was hurt at work and couldn't look after my dv a few months ago. They didn't help me then, this doesn't surprise me, just makes me sad

Just ask. Don't wait for them to offer! Like I said, everyone just leaves it to someone else to do. Sometimes people need a -kick up the bum- gentle encouragement.

It's not really the lack of helping that's the problem, it's the way that none of them can be bothered to call and see how I am, I think that's what's really hurting

I would feel hurt too. I think maybe your feeling very down and you family don't know how to deal with you as things are so sad for you at the moment. But look on the bright side, your sale will be complete soon. And you soon will be back with your dog and in your new home. Once settled invite your family round. What's happening at work

Work thing is a bit complicated and very outing but I've been complained about, I've been under investigation for this for well over a year, this has involved a national body investigating me too. I'm not loosing my job over this but this is hanging over me. There may at some point be reporting in the press over it all. I know I'm a bit low about everything, but all of what's happening is my decision. I ended my marriage due to ex being emotionally abusive to me and physically to our son. I'm selling the house where our dd was born because it makes sense to financially and to stop ex just walking into the house

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I feel your pain. I was ill for a long time and no-one really cared. It has taught me to always care.
Bless you.

And I've just been in my adult sons room, he started a new job today, he was supposedly packing his room last night. Nothing is packed. My ex is expecting me to take him a canoe out of the garage when I've told him it won't fit in my car, I've dumped it on the lawn. I'm down to 1 person helping me move out tomorrow now as another has dropped out. I'm getting to about my limit now