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What would a midwife/Dr do in this situation? Sensitive, please don't read if easily upset regarding births

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StopTheSundayBlues · 25/11/2018 19:01

A video of a woman being examined and the midwife quickly discover something called 'cord prolapse' is circling Facebook.

It's extremely dangerous and if baby isn't taken out within minutes via emergency section, the child will die.

The midwife has to go on all fours on the bed and hold the baby's head out of the way of the cord whilst the woman is wheeled into theatre.

The woman is then immediately put to sleep so an emergency section can be performed.

My somewhat morbid thoughts are, what
if the woman shouted no and insisted nobody touch her?

What if she insisted on a no section situation, and insisted on letting nature taking its course and delivery the baby naturally?

I know these are really odd things to think but it does fascinate me. It all looked 100% out of her control (which it was).

So what would happen if a woman in this situation said she doesn't want any intervention?

Would medical professionals step in anyway? Are they even allowed? I know this action would be fatal to baby but would it be fatal to the mother? If not, surely she can say no. Since it is still a fetus until both, technically.

I often get tearful about how selfish I was when delivering DS. Luckily I delivered naturally but I remembered a suggested section being mentioned if baby was in distress and I hadn't progressed as I should've. I remember telling them I wouldn't have a section and they'd have to let things go as they go. I only cared for myself at that point.

I'm in absolute awe of this woman just going with it and letting everyone do everything they can to deliver her precious baby safely Thanks

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citiesofbismuth · 25/11/2018 19:05

They have ways of persuading you to do it anyway. I wasn't asked if I consented to my emcs, they just carted me off and got on with it. You can't go anywhere or do anything whilst you're in labour.

jellyandsoup · 25/11/2018 19:06

If the woman declined then yes they would have to respect her wishes, the baby has no rights. The situation you described is a cord prolapse and is extremely dangerous, without that midwife holding the baby's head up off and stopping it compressing the cord and a very fast section the baby would die. They would strongly suggest she would have it, but the bottom line is if she does not consent they cant do it.

StopTheSundayBlues · 25/11/2018 19:08

cities I understand they are very persuasive but they aren't psychological hypnosis specialists.

It is possible to be adamant that it's a no.

I remember it well... I was very adamant I wouldn't be going up to theatre for stitches after my 4th degree tear until I had brushed my teeth. And I didn't. They were adamant and even shouted, but they could not make me and I did not go.

I'm well aware this was a ridiculous action on my part. I ended up with three blood transfusions Sad

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StopTheSundayBlues · 25/11/2018 19:09

jelly Thank you. I wasn't sure if they could step in or not, or if there were 'blurred lines' about what a labouring woman with a life at stake could say no to

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DryHeave · 25/11/2018 19:17

Just looked this video up: blooming heck! The midwife kneeling on the bed itself with her hand in place as it’s wheeled into theatre. What a remarkable team effort and all conducted so calmly to keep everyone safe - and alive.

MrsPear · 25/11/2018 19:29

When ds1’s cord dropped down before him I didn’t even really know. H shouted something about rope and the doctor just said don’t worry I’m dealing with it. She then told me to trust her and follow instructions. It wasn’t informed consent with pros and cons. I learnt afterwards what she did when she explained. He was was born vaginally not a section.
Tbh I don’t know how any woman could allow their child to die because they don’t like examinations. Before anyone jumps I say that despite being a victim of assault.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2018 19:46

”I was very adamant I wouldn't be going up to theatre for stitches after my 4th degree tear until I had brushed my teeth. And I didn't. They were adamant and even shouted, but they could not make me and I did not go”

I’m sorry but that is ridiculous - I bet that, in the time they spent arguing with you, they could have got you a cup of water and let you brush your teeth!

hidinginthenightgarden · 25/11/2018 19:52

The blunt answer is the baby would probably die. I cannot imagine allowing any "personal beliefs" getting in the way of saving the life of my child.

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