Does anyone have a fussy eater despite having done baby led weaning?

[Davespecifico]

Just wondering, as my 12 yr old DD has a limited diet. If I'd BLWd, I wonder if she'd eat a broader range now.
I think maybe not as she had a very definite distaste for veg from the very horrified look she gave me when I gave her a first bit of carrot.

Yes, but she has ASD which I do t think helps

I have done both.
Ds one I did the jars and spoon fed and did all that introducing in stages stuff. He is the fussiest eater ever and now is a fussy adult but has sensory issues I think are his problem with food. He has bizarre foods he enjoys like only raw broccoli not cooked, or lots of messy mexican food, but wont eat gravy.
Ds two BLW ate everything and still does.
Dd BLW fussy but not as bad as Ds one. She won't eat any sauces or gravy but loves all veg and fruit.

I baby led with my 15 month old ... He hates food. Refuses pretty much everything

Weaning makes no difference. I've one DD and 2 SC's. DD and her DSS are remarkably similar (fussy) eaters, I've no idea how DSD was weaned. Her brother on the other hand (presumably same techniques) will eat pretty much anything.
People who tell you they've cured or 'not put up with' fussy eating have not really experienced a child with challenging eating habits.
Both of our girls will go hungry rather than eat something they don't like. They both have very texture driven likes/dislikes, interestingly our older girl has got used to a much wider range of foods as she's got older. So, I do think many kids grow out of it and as long as they are healthy and a good weight, that's enough.
I'd rather mostly feed DD things she likes and have stress free mealtimes. Her diet is pretty good, just not very broad. And frankly a bit dull, but she likes it.

DD1 was always quite fussy, went through a really restrictive stage and is now coming out of it.

DD2, ate everything and anything. I refused to let her be fussy. Then she became fussy and hardly ate anything. Now she is much less fussy and getting better every day.

Both were BLW and DD2 showed that refusing to allow a child to be fussy just resulted in her not eating and still being fussy.

Apparently fussiness is inbuilt to prevent young children (many years ago) eating things they shouldn’t. That’s why so many are fussy despite there being nothing wrong in the way they are weaned or fed.

Wow azulmariposa that sounds amazing...I don't think I've ever heard of that way of dealing with restricted eating, I really think you might be onto something.....ah fuck it, I can't keep it up.

I stick by it being shite

Ha - not ‘allowing’ fussy eating is such bullshit. My SIL has twins who have been fed identically since birth. Now, aged almost 2, one eats almost everything and the other is very fussy and a huge source of worry. Some children are just picky regardless of parental input.

What exactly is the point of baby led weaning?

Yep, did BLW with DD, age 2 she ate everything, between the ages of 4 and 8 she ate very little, but has become more adventurous again in the last year

Yep.
10yr old dd is currently eating plain spaghetti and French stick. I've thrown in the towel after several years of fussiness. She used to like loads of different foods when she was younger. I figure she'll grow out of it when she's an older teen.

I wanted to feed DS via purees but he would only eat via BLW. He would just steal our food and refuse his purees. He would eat anything via BLW until approx 18months when the fussiness kicked in.

He hates sauces and anything that might change flavour. So hates our gravy, LOVES his nanna’s gravy. Does alright with school dinners...

We tried to not allow him to become fussy but it turned every meal into a battle and he would rather starve than eat. He is better now (7y) but eats dumbed down versions of what we eat. He is good with meat, fish and fruit, ok with carbs and limited re veg.

Didn’t let child be fussy, forsooth! How old is this child? My two were BLW and ate everything including broccoli when they were between 6 months and 18 months. Then they both went fussy. About different things. DD is coming out of it slightly at 6, although she still claims certain foods are itchy. DS aged 4 doesn’t like potatoes unless they are chips or crisps. I bet Azul’s child is only 1 - and my kids had certain flavours way more than 7 times, used to like them and have now changed their minds.

I did BLW with both mine, one is fussier than the other. The older will happily try new food but the younger can say 'I don't like that!' without even trying it. I think it's just character, though.
I did BLW more for the fun of it and to avoid the hassle of pureeing. And for the reactions I got from BIL (sister's husband) who was convinced I was going to damage them (!)
But over all, I really don't think the weaning choices are something to beat yourself up with. You may find that she becomes more adventurous in the future.

I think, much like sleep rountines, it's really just down to the child themselves and not actually what you've done in terms of how you've weaned /routine/ etc

I weaned DS at 4 months on purees and traditional weaning and he eats the most varied diet now as an almost 9 year old. He will eat anything I give him and his absolute favourite foods are veg like broccoli, spinach etc Also loves salmon, prawns etc he also has no allergies at all

My DN was weaned at 6 months on BLW and she is the fussiest eater and has around three dinners she will actually eat. I do think it's unlikely it's been down to anything other than some kids are fussy and some aren't. My DN does have a few mild food allergies and that is something that I've been reading a lot about recently and there's been a lot of recent research to suggest that babies who are weaned before 6 months actually have less chance of having allergies, despite what we are told around the 6 months weaning guidelines

We did BLW with DD ad she was a fussy bugger even then, hasn’t got much better (now 5.5)
That said, she’s better than some kids I know, so we plough on 😂

We BLW DD - used to call her DustyBin as she would eat anything.... She is now the fussiest of my three (the other two were purees and Annabel Karmel)

She actually eats lots of things you might not expect (fish, olives, capers, sushi) but would pick at sausages, stew type food. She's not a massive meat eater and I guess just doesn't have a very big appetite (which I don't want to push)

She only has what's put in front of her but I get tired of 'it's not my favourite...'

Parent led weaning and diet is probably the best for unfussy eaters. Children do have better tastebuds than adults so can be less enamoured of strong flavours but generally a take it or go without system means children eat most things.

The only non-fussy small child I've ever met was my godson, who was weaned on Annabel Karmel's purees. I don't think that was cause-and-effect though! His younger sibling was weaned using the same method and is much fussier.

Another vote for shite azulmariposa. DS went for three days without eating when we said he had to eat the main meal or there was no dessert - not exactly what you want with a toddler who is losing weight!

He was the easiest baby to wean. He just put out his hand, grabbed my sandwich, bit it, chew it and swallowed it. He ate everything, like an adult...until he didn’t.

The old adage of they’ll eat if they’re hungry has been dispproved wrong many, many times in our house alone!

Oops sorry just dispproved!

generally a take it or go without system means children eat most things

...or not.

Loving how the smug parents who starved their children into submission are posting on this thread

DD isn't fussy now, but was a very underweight baby, toddler and child who just wasn't interested in eating at all. I used to worry so much about trying to get some weight on her. She spent a lot of time in hospital and didn't have any reserves on her when she was ill.

The parents of eat it or lump it children don't have genuinely fussy eaters or have never come across a child who is so fussy that they would rather go hungry than eat something they don't want to.

I hate when people say they didn't allow their kids to be fussy. We did everything by the book and DS(10) had the most varied and perfect diet but around aged 7 refused to eat modt food. Uber healthy in relation to fruit and lunches, horrific for dinners. We tried everything including repeating foods over and over. Everyone said if he gets nothing afterwards he'll be so hungry etc but no he was stubborn to the nth degree and would go hungry. We still try everything, we never gave up as I was a fussy eater and know how awful it is when you're in secondary and later on but nothing does the job. I really feel for him because it's already happening, his cousins asking why he has plain food or isn't eating and trying to get him to 'just try it'

"I hate when people say they didn't allow their kids to be fussy."

So do I. You feel like giving them your children to try out their persuasive techniques on.