To be over going out out

[NoelleBelle]

I'm a sociable person and went to a few bars last night. Got in at 2am and thought I'm so over going out drinking. It was boring and full of people I had nothing in common with. I used to love going out getting pissed but God it's crap now anyone else?

Anyone??

Yes I've been over it for a couple of years.

When the girls arrange a night out we go to one if our houses first for a few pre-drinks and then about an hour and half later get a cab into town. I last about an hour maximum in town before I get bored and bugger off home.

It's lovely to have a drink and catch up but i can't be arsed with the pub in a Saturday night.

I'm with you! Hate it now. Was out at a gig last night and it finished just before 11 and we had a very brief debate about going out for a few drinks after but quickly decided to get the last train home and have a cup of tea and some toast in our pj's :)

The train was full of drunk people, was horrible. One guy got on with a pint glass full of wine and was smoking. It was grim.

Oh and I force myself to do this about 5 times a year. 😂

I agree!

Oh yes I totally agree. I feel like crying if I have to get dressed up to go out these days. I am currently pregnant and suffered from hideous all day sickness until recently so I am using pregnancy sickness to get out of any Christmas nights out.

I hate going out Much happier at home on the sofa in my stretchy clothes with a gin.

it's just so boring now!

Totally agree. I haven’t been clubbing for years and have no interest. The last few times I went ‘out out’, as you put it, I felt like I couldn’t have any sort of conversation with anyone as the music was blaring, I was surrounded by drunk idiots and I ended up paying a fortune on drinks/entry fees for a rubbish night out. Totally overrated, and I don’t care how old this post makes me sound (I’m only in my 30s!)

I hate going out in the evening at all. Casual coffee and casual lunches great, anything else - bluergh.

Totally agree. For about 25 years

I haven't been "out out" for about 35 years. Haven't missed it at all.

But you went out with people you say you had nothing in common with, so surely the boredom factor was related to that, at least in part? I turned down an invitation to a beautiful meal in a lovely village gastropub last night because I have no common ground at all with the other people going — perfectly nice fellow-parents from my son’s class, but not my kind of people. Going on a pub crawl or dancing on tables with them would have been equally uninspiring.

Whereas I spent 48 hours last winter having an absolute ball with someone I barely knew but clicked with — we got stuck in the same US airport during blizzards that grounded flights, and ended up drifting from dive bar to dive bar in a deeply uninspiring city with a bunch of other stranded travellers, and it was fabulous.

Yes but I was over out out years ago- I’d rather we warm, eating and resting

I'm 37. DH and I gave up nights out almost 15 years ago. We'd much rather sit snuggled up at home with a cup of tea and catch up with our favourite tv shows. I recall the last time we were invited to an acquaintance's wedding we realised we couldn't attend for a good reason we actually high-fived each other 😳.

When we go out it's for a nice meal, peace from the kids, a few drinks at the table and some lovely conversation either on our own or with friends. Much better than getting plastered and trying to find a taxi home at 2am.

I do have things in common with the people I went out with. It's other people in clubs etc I imagine I've got nothing in common with. It just bores me now

It's other people in clubs etc I imagine I've got nothing in common with

But why does that matter, if you were with good friends? Or are you saying everyone you were with was also bored? Bored and pissed is a bad combination, admittedly.

I went out for one cocktail the other night with one good friend. It was perfect, good chat, delicious cocktail and home at 9.45!!

Because they try to speak to me limperty?

Ive not been drinking for the last couple of months but went out with DH last night and decided to have a proper drink.
Actually I had four pints and meandered home in a cheerful enough mood. I then stayed up late listening to music and mooching through the fridge before going to bed at about 1.30.
Today my head is banging and I'm crippled by the all consuming lethargy that marks one of my hangovers. I'm currently propped up in bed bemoaning the waste of the day and genuinely thinking that that's the end of my drinking days- not in a "god I feel so rough I'm never drinking again" way, more in a "fuck this for a game of soldiers" way.

Oh yeah I am so over it. When ever my friends suggest a girly night out I just want to die inside.

I hate it too. Most of my friends are over it-we tend to do leisurely lunches now. DH has one group of friends (who are now my friends as well) and they still love going out, getting hammered, getting home at 5am and staying in bed most of the next day. Their kids are looked after by the grandparents and they keep them all day Sunday. My mum looks after DS for us and she likes to get back to her own bed so we don’t stay out much past 12,even that’s an absolute drag.

Not for more than a couple of hours, even with longstanding friends. Usually before an event.

Social activities that don't involve alcohol or copious amounts of food are all too rare or expensive in this country.