Hi all,
My daughter (16) has been "friends" with this group of girls since school and they are all now at college.
She was good friends with one girl (girl A) in particular but past couple of months since this other girl (girl B) has come back on the scene, girl A had almost completely turned her back on my daughter.
Shes still invites her places when she feels like it but when she does she completely and publicy humiliates her in front of people especially new people and boys, telling them not to speak to my Daughter because shes thick, slack, stupid etc.
Shes lied to her, left her out of stuff and completely tarnished her good character to others. But more recently she had started trying to fleece money out of her.
In the space of 5 days she has tried duping her out of £75! £25 for a new pair of trousers which my Daughter apparently ruined...shes been barged into by a woman whilst eating a sandwich, sandwich has gone flying and landed on girl As trousers leaving a greasy mark. My daughter got blame because althought it wasnt her fault that she dropped the sandwich, according to girl A it was her fault because it was her sandwich! Girl B was making it worse by rubbing the grease in further and taking photos of the stain.
Later on the same week Girl A has had a party while her Nan was away, these boys were starting a fight outside, my Daughter has run outside to break it up and diffuse the situation which luckily she managed to do but in the process shes bumped into a boy who was holding a glass, hes subsequently dropped it and its smashed on the drive behind the Nans car.
My Daughter picked the glass up best she could.
Fast forward to Tuesday, the girls Nan has come home, found out Girl A has had a party. Girl A has blamed the broken glass on my daughter and messged her saying "my Nan knows you smashed that glass, shes not happy". Then the following day she got a message off Girl A again saying "IF my Nan gets a puncture because of that smashed glass you owe her a new tyre!!!" so daughters asked her how much, where from and what tyre size. To which she replied "£50, Xxxxxx Motors, and youve the seen the car, you should know what size tyre it needs!". Then 2 minutes later another message saying "It IS punctured, shes had to buy a new tyre, you owe her £50!"
We knew something wasnt right whem we tried to find the garage only to find that its non existent. Shes basically plucked a name out of thin air. And she couldnt be specific about the size of the tyre we would need etc.
My daughter asked her to pass my number onto her Nan so the adukts could sort it out because after all, its me who would be paying for it not Daughter and its her Nans car not hers! Also just to add we were never goimg to hamd any money over seeing as it wasnt my daughter who smashed the flipping glass in the first place although she did bump into someone.
Anyway this girl has been on and on at her, she wouldnt get her Nan to ring me which rang alarm bells straight away.
The next day at college she was goimg around my daughters friends saying she was going to smash my daughters face in because she owes HER £50!
So yesterday I bit the bullet and went to see the Nan. She didnt have a clue what we were on about. She invited us in.
Apparently this girl has got in huge trouble for having the party, shes had her money allowance stopped as a result so is just trying to fleece my daughter. The car didnt have a puncture, it came on dash saying low tyre pressure so they took it to garage, no puncture. Could either be because the cars been sat unused for a week or possibly a slow puncture but nothing visible.
The Nan had told the girl A that if there was a puncture, either she was to pay it because had she not had the party in first place there would have been no smashed glass OR she had to tell everyone who attended the party to chip in to pay for it.
But girl A has blames it all on my girl. Weve had to tell the Nan about the lads almost fighting etc which she knew nothing about. But shes glad my daughter stopped it ans said thank you as it could have been a lot worse than a bit of glass and a potential puncture.
Shes said girl A has no right at all demanding money out of my Daughter, its not her fault etc. And she never once said to girl A that my daughter was solely responsible. Shes absolutely livid with girl A.
We took the opportunity to tell her about the belittling etc and she too said its since girl B has come back on the scene, girl As attitude has been absolutely vile.
She going to have words with girl A about the tyre thing, shes going to tell her she saw me in supermarket as she thinks girl A will be nasty to my daughter if she says weve been to the house and shes also promised us she wont tell her about the other things we discussed as its basically bullying what they are doing to my girl and its not on but could make it worse.
Im just really really worried that my daughters going to get some awful backlash for us speaking to the Nan.
Have I /we done the right thing and what would you have done in this situation?xx