Is this just normal two year old behaviour

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I take DD (18 months) to a playgroup. In this group there are quite afew 2/3 years olds who go round pushing smaller children including my DD out the way, stealing toys etc.
Their parents do occasionally get involved normally if it results in crying. But a lot of it goes ignored.
Before DD I literally have no knowledge of children. I don't want to be judgemental as I genuinely don't know if this is normal behaviour and if my DD may become like this when she is that age? Is this the terrible twos I'm witnessing?
In a way I can't expect the parents to say something every time as they would probably be constantly shouting at them.

In my experience of playroups it is entirely normal behaviour. However the discrepancy arises when some parents watch their children and educate their kids ("No, we don't push other people. She had the cosy coupe first. When she's finished it'll be your turn.") and others don't watch, don't teach, and only wade in when their kid has whacked someone else's kid over the head with a wooden stick and everyone's fed up by that point.

Sounds normal.

Good luck for the next year or so

The behaviour of the children is normal. The behaviour of the parents is not. I can't stand people who ignore their shoving, snatching, biting kids.

Normal but parents should be consistently stepping in and reminding children 'kind hands' etc. As a mum of a 4 year old it's been an exhausting 2 years but we are getting there.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere has it absolutely spot on. When those kids are slightly older, and you are at the hell that is soft play, it will be immediately obvious which kids have been taught and corrected, and which haven't. The behaviour you mention is completely normal, but they do need to be educated out of it.

This is why we only went to playgroup twice!

I should probably have continued as it introduces your DC to the concept that not everyone wants their turn etc. and gives them some practice in dealing with it at school, but it made me really anxious (I'd just had DS2!) so I avoided it.

But it's not that hard to tell your kid to wait their turn is it?

Exactly what Dontbuy said! It annoys me no end when a toddler pushes or whacks my 2yr old and the parent does nothing. I know it's normal but I don't allow my son to do it so he usually end up looking at me after he's been pushed. I feel quite sorry for my pfb actually!

The behaviour does sound normal, and I think you'll soon learn when to step in. A bit of toy snatching is okay IMO (otherwise you'll be constantly intervening!) but hitting or biting is not acceptable.

It’s totally normal and you may well find yours does the same. Some parents are better at policing it than others however.

I can't expect the parents to say something every time as they would probably be constantly shouting at them

Theres no need for them to be "constantly shouting"

Althougb i agree you'll tell those that have been reminded about kind hands and sharing; rather than been ignored and allowed to get on with it.

It becomes even worse wheb their teenagers and they've not been taught any boundrys

A lot if parents are shit. If your kid bites and hits you supervise, you don’t sit with your back to them while playing on social media like a lot of parents do.

It’s normal behaviour for a 2 yr old.

The bit that annoys me is when their parents completely ignore it.