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DS - (Father issues) - Sorry Long

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Louise173 · 23/11/2018 10:04

Hello
I have been divorced from my DS dad for 9 years, at first our relationship was great in arrangements in my Ex having my DS, then 4yrs ago he met his new wife (3rd Wife) then things started to go down hill, to the point that he stopped seeing our DS, (she has children herself much older) at 1st my DS would stay at theirs then to nothing at all, my Ex cut off all ties with my DS 3yrs ago to the point where he didnt see or speak to him, was not invite to their Wedding which cut my DS up in half, yes he was hurt, angry to the point that he was lashing out to everyone, it has taken me some time to get my happy go boy back until September of this year where my son bumped into his dad and they got talking, seen each other twice then history started over all again where my Ex was slagging me off to my son again which upset my son, he was suppose to see his dad last weekend but called it off. The other day my son came up to me and said that he asked his dad for a Christmas present ( never had one whatsoever in 4yrs) to his dad saying your mother gets enough maintenance out of me each month, get it out of that, to which my son said that it would be nice to have a present directly from him where my Ex told him to stop nagging him about it, i have never nor would i stop my DS from seeing his dad as they only live 5mins up the road from us.
Question - do you think i should get in touch with my Ex and point this out to him on how upset my DS is? or leave it
Do you think my Ex is right?
I just feel for my DS and told him that it shouldnt be about presents/money but spending time with his dad,
My DS is 13yrs

sorry for so long, just would like to know peoples thoughts
Louise

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Snowwontbelong · 23/11/2018 10:08

Your ds isnt being grabby in hoping his df would take the time to choose him a gift.
Similar here, my df dumped me when sm came along, no invite to their wedding, never had a gift. My dm let me find out in teen years he was a twat, wish she had just stopped me going tbh.
Suggest your ds takes a step back til maybe he is 16 and better equipped emotionally /physically to tell him to fuck off.
He adds zero to his life.

Louise173 · 23/11/2018 10:15

oh i would love to tell my DS to tell him to f.k off, but i cant ( i have to him many times when we spoke) lol thank you Snowwontbelong :)

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