How would you have reacted to this woman?

[Hisaishi]

I'm still musing over this situation a month after it happened. I'm just really confused about it and not sure how others would have reacted.

I was at a meet-up thingy, just a one-off where we were supposed to be learning how to paint. We were sitting in groups of three to share paints etc. All women. None of us had never met either woman in my group before, all said hi, introduced ourselves etc etc.

One woman (woman A)- totally fine. We chatted a bit whenever we were waiting for the paint to dry/during break times etc. The other woman (woman B) talked to woman A but would NOT talk to me AT ALL. A couple of times I would say something (totally innocuous stuff) and she would just go 'hm' and ask the woman A a question or totally change the subject. Meanwhile, woman A would be trying to ask me more about what I had said.

I'm not the most out-going person, and I have issues with making friends beyond the acquaintance stage, but I've never had any issues with initial conversation, so it was really weird. There was nothing I could possibly have said to get her back up, she blanked me basically from the moment I introduced myself.

There's no way she's heard some viscious rumour about me or anything, we live on opposite ends of a huge city, no mutual friends or anything like that, besides which, I live a very quiet, placid life.

A few things she said did strike me as odd. One of the first questions she asked was if my husband was the same age as me. I said he was a year older and she said 'oh my husband is 10 years older, there's no way I could marry someone the same age as me.' I thought that was a bit weird, but I just brushed it off, cos whatever. She was also a bit boasty about some stuff like the size of her house and her husband's job, at one point she said something like 'not to show off, but my husband is a manager at xyz, sorry' which struck me as really odd (especially considering she doesn't even know what my husband does.)

It was like she had immediately decided I was beneath her in some way. And it really really doesn't bother me, it was just so.weird.

Woman A was totally fine and we're meeting up again next week, so it's not like I made some terrible social blunder or something.

We were there for 3 hours while she merrily chatted to woman A while ignoring me. TBH, it got awkward towards the end because it was so obvious.

I'm just wondering what others would do in this situation? Should I have said something? Or just let it lie and accept that some people just hate others on sight?

there's no point trying to figure her out op some people are nuts, at the moment i am working with a real life bunny boiler.
i never knew people like her excisted (sp) in real life just in films.

She was jealous of you. Either how you look, dress or come across. Hence the subtle boasting and blanking you. Some folks are like this and can't control it.

Don't give it any head space. It's her problem, don't make it yours.

snuggy hm maybe but why? Person A is definitely no more popular or connected than me.

sheep not like I have been sitting here for a month day in day out, just it sometimes pops into my head and I was discussing it with a friend today and we were both really puzzled.

It’s very odd, so odd I wonder if you do have some kind of social connection you aren’t aware of eg a mutual acquaintance. You are in the same city it wouldn’t be that unusual.

I might be having a little discreet look at her fb friends list if I could.

As to how I would have behaved on the day? I go with all out charm offensive in these situations. Be so incredibly nice that their rudeness really stands out by comparison.

Apart from anything else if someone is trying to put you down and you breeze along cheerfully it drives them bonkers. .

wise same race, roughly the same age, same dressing style, I'd say.

bluntness not really giving it headspace exactly, it just interests me. Like I said, people normally get on with me ok on first meeting, so it just confused me a bit. Jealousy? Maybe but I don't see why? I'm nothing special I wouldn't say, just a normal human.

nona no fb friends in common, even if we did, I'm definitely not a controversial or flamboyant person.

I'd say I was pretty nice. I mean, every time she ignored me, I just thought 'ok' and continued talking to the other woman.

Just a v odd situation all round.

Very odd, OP it sounds like you handled it well.

In the face of other people’s bad behaviour cheerfully maintaining the moral high ground is usually the best course of action.

Sometimes we meet people and for reasons we can't explain just cannot take to them. There's nothing you can do other than be polite and behave as you would to anyone. You've done nothing wrong, just ignore her too and try not to let it get to you.

She's likely feeling insecure as otherwise why mention her husbands job. Just be kind back to her and don't take it personally.

I can understand why it's puzzling to you but I'm sure most of us have experienced a variation of this behaviour at some point from a stranger.

bloomini yes, I'm sure, but I'm curious as to why.

She doesn't have to like me, but at least being civil could be good. Plenty of people I don't like, but I don't awkwardly blank them!

Meetup is amazing but amongst the lovely people you meet are some who are shitty or just nuts.

Went on a Meetup for a meal. 10 minutes in a woman started telling us all about her sex life and how she had to have sex with her boyfriend or he wouldn't eat his vegetables! Really forceful personality so I skipped dessert, paid up and left as soon as politely possible.

Not sure why she was behaving in that way op, but she reminded me of the snobby sister in law in Mum. I can't remember her name, but she always acted as if she was far better than anyone else.

Some women are put out by innocuous things like if someone is prettier, slimmer, speaks nicer etc. She obviously felt inferior to you which is why she was trying to big herself up by bragging about her H's job.

I have experienced this many a time (have a cut glass accent no idea where from!). DD (21) gets it all the time too. Rude woman's problem not yours. No need to waste any time thinking about it.

Although if the question about your DH was out of the blue and it wasn't that you'd already been discussing your partners ages, I'd wonder if she may know him of him and fancy him . It's a small world.

Had a similar experience at a night class. One was the companion/career for the other due to a protected characteristic.

They introduced themselves as such though the first week. Any chance you could have missed such an announcement.

I'd like to think I'd be the better person and ignore her batshit behaviour but I confess I would be tempted to play up to it. Offer everyone a biscuit or a drink and she might suddenly hear you. Or talk to her in her face and keep repeating yourself until everyone notices her.
But honestly, just laugh it off to yourself and thank the deity of your choice that you are not as wierd as her...