When I left university I got a job 200 miles from home and have been here ever since. I'm now 51. DC are away at university. All my relations still live in my home city. We visit several times a year. Since DC left I have had a huge yearning to go back home. I feel a real emptiness that's more than just empty nest I think. We are very busy and I have a wide circle of friends here, but there is something missing. My parents are getting on a bit and I would love to see them more and also the rest of my family, siblings, nieces, nephews, cousins etc. Trouble is, I like where we live, it's semi-rural in a lovely part of the country. I love our house and I love my job. DH would be happy to move to home city, he's not from here and has no family to speak of and would be happy anywhere. He also doesn't love our house like I do. We couldn't afford anything as nice in home city (or at least, the area my family are in) so would have to downsize.
I like my home city but it's got all the usual problems associated with big cities - traffic, pollution, crime. Am so worried about making a mistake. It's people that matter isn't it? Not the four walls? Help!