Is this fair - DC, have me down toys and pocket money

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DD (7) and I recently had a big clear out of her room, and got rid of a lot of her old toys games etc, either to friends with younger children or the charity shop. There were also some good bits that we sold on Faceboll locally - a doll’s bed abd some dressing up stuff. I gave her the money for her money box, £12.

DS(10) and I have now done something similar. He has a fairly big Hotwheels set that is complete, all works fine, which he has asked if he can try and sell too. It was a birthday present to him when he was 4 or 5, and cost £50ish. There is a very similar set currently on eBay for £25 buy it now.

DD is saying she wants the Hotwheelsto play with.
DS is grumpy because she’s denying him the opportunity to make a bit of money.

Would it be fair for DS to sell the Hotwheels to DD? At “mate’s rates” (he doesn’t know what the eBay one is listed at)? Maybe do some tasks to earn the payment?

Obv, tithe should read “Hand me Down” toys

yes ... if she looks after it she will be able to get some cash back .

he’ll want the money now for the toy but what if she then sells it for more, or wants to give it back

These would be my worries as well. The easiest way to solve this now is to let him sell it. He's had it for over 5 years and in all that time his sister hasn't wanted to play with it, so I would let him sell it and maybe buy her some hotwheels for Christmas if you think she'll actually play with them.

Let her buy it for a set amount, then when she sells it she gets the same amount back and you split any extra between them.

If DD or DS wants the other’s toys they get them for free. They’re siblings. If your DS wants a toy to sell he has to find another toy to sell.

Does she really want to play with it or is it a ploy to stop her brother earning money?

If she only wants to play with it now he's selling it I'd let him sell and buy her a small set for Christmas. Maybe ask if she's going to put it on her 'list' to see if it's genuine? If it was my DD I know she'd be doing it out of spite towards her brother 😒 she's sold what she wanted and your DS should be allowed the same privilege.

I have the rule that the younger ones can play with it until they are finished with it. They have to actually use it though. When everyone has finished, it is sold or donated. The original owner gets the money. I think this is kind behaviour to encourage and they actually accept it.

I think she should buy it if she really wants to play with it, which I suspect she doesn't.