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Mama47 · 20/11/2018 23:24

My husbands family don't speak to me after his mother was horrible to me during my pregnancy. She says she doesn't know why she was and has never apologised or listened to me when I wanted space and nobody has batted an eyelid. I have been embarrassed and shouted and had abuse hurled at me during my pregnancy and afterwards from his mum. I still allow them access to my child but only half of them bother to see her. My husband and I argue constantly and they want me to move past this and forget it when I don't know why I was and still am treated this way and without remorse or an apology. What do I do?

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Aquamarine1029 · 21/11/2018 04:31

Why didn't/hasn't your husband stood up for you? Where was he when you were treated so horribly by HIS family?

Your biggest problem is with your husband. If he doesn't support you why are you with him?

Rachelover40 · 21/11/2018 04:35

Were you being especially sensitive during your pregnancy? Sometimes we don't take things well from in laws which we don't even notice with our own family. Just a thought.

I loved my in laws but when I was pregnant I felt invisible in their company, they didn't seem to want to talk about my pregnancy. I will never know why but I sort of expected them to be excited and want to know about every stage. However once I gave birth they were great.

Mama47 · 21/11/2018 06:54

He has spoken to his family about their behaviour countless times but it never resolves anything. They have the attitude of they don't think they've done anything wrong and that's that.

I definitely wasn't over sensitive. When we were with his family celebrating she announced that she couldn't believe that her son was having a baby with "that". As soon as we announced that I was pregnant they changed towards me and it got worse after I gave birth. It was nothing to do with my pregnancy it was I became the person that it was acceptable to be horrible to and infront of my few week old baby when I was ill they shouted at me, threw insults at me and swore at me and told me I was the problem and that they can't waste time with someone like me.

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