When is grief depression?

[gunge]

Lost my mother in law recently.

Everything back into the normal routine now and whilst I expect to still be grieving (I loved her dearly) I'm struggling with low mood.

I have little patience with my young kids and whilst I still look forward to and enjoy things, the shine isn't quite there. I'm so tired, although I could just be recovering from all the stress I suppose.

Actually my DH seems to be coping better and it was his mum.

Do I need to just give it time or do I need help?

I lost both my grandparents within a short space of time recently and I asked myself the same question. I was feeling worse and more tearful when I thought I should be feeling better. I felt like I was spiralling into depression so I called my Dr and he referred me to a grief counsellor, I am not depressed, I just needs talk my grief through and it's really helping. I would suggest this may help? Also grief is a funny thing we never get over loosing someone we just have to learn a way to live with the grief, and we are all different.

Op have a look at this and see if it helps. Depression is part of the normal grief cycle. Hopefully, you’ll get through it ok but go to your gp if you need to.

grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/

That is a very useful article thanks DayKay

Think I just need to give myself time. It was a sudden and unexpected loss and now we are into dark nights and trying to rally for Christmas. No wonder I'm not quite as sparky.