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How did you learn to accept changes to your body shape after having dc?

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ClickyJoints · 20/11/2018 11:45

I have 2 dc. The youngest is 4. I have spent the past year really working hard on getting my bmi into the green healthy zone - after lots of working out at the gym, quitting sugary drinks and eating more veg im finally there! Yay!

I thought I'd be really happy when I got down to a size 10-12 and I am kind of, but when i look in the mirror i just focus on all the things I hate about my body shape. Things that diet and exercise can t ever fix. My stomach has a n apron of loose skin which hangs down and needs to be tucked into my knickers and then the edges peek out if the bottom of my underwear my belly button now looks like a sad frown, my boobs have been ravaged by breastfeeding and everything is basically swaying depressingly about 5cm below where it should be.

I can have surgery to remove the loose belly skin, to bring my boobs back up to my chest area, etc but rather than going in for some big operations id like to learn to accept my body and be happy in my own skin. but how do I do that? How is it possible to mentally switch into acceptance of the areas that wobble and dangle? They don't bother dh, when I wear my clothes i can disguise the problem areas, my dc love me regardless so it's just an issue that affects me and only me.

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redexpat · 20/11/2018 11:55

I didnt gain any weight but have stretched and separated stomach muscles that can only be fixed by surgery. Also my boobs have shrunk and moved south. I turned my attitude around by following Sophie Hagen on twitter. She does a lot of fat activism but made me realise exactly how my ideal body was what society told me it should be. Well fuck that and fuck the patriarchy. My body has produced 2 children and Im damn proud of that. You should be too.

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