Should visitors stick to hosts' sleeping /waking times?

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A family member came to visit for a few days. We have a young child and tend to go to bed at what I recognise is an early time 9/9.30. (Baby is put to bed around 7:30.) Maybe 10 if we're watching a film. Dh wakes at 6:00 and baby and I wake up/get up around 7/8.
I stayed up till 10 watching TV with family member the two or three nights they were here, then went to bed.
They didn't wake up /get up til 11:30 or 12, having stayed up late watching TV and then reading. They didn't disturb us going to bed but I found it awkward for meals and day trips. We'd be between breakfast and lunch by the time they got up but it was too long to lunch for them to wait. Then if they ate at 12 and we had lunch at 1:30 they were ready for lunch at 3 but we were thinking of dinner around 6. And then organising to go out was tricky because by the time they got up it was nearly not worth going anywhere.

I appreciate it's not a big deal and was only for a couple of days. And if we were in their house we wouldn't be staying up til 2am watching TV then sleeping til noon just to fit in with the host's timetable.

Any thoughts?

I'm generally up earlier than hosts, but wouldn't mind if they were later. I'd be annoyed if guests stayed in bed past about 9, I want to get on and do stuff with them and sleeping til almost midday is a bit weird when staying at someone else's, Imo.

The only guests I'd tolerate sleeping until lunchtime are ones close enough for me to trust with a key, so I can get on with my day.

If we have people staying we tend to stay up later than usual chatting/socialising/ watching a film etc but still get up at 6am the next day (we only have one bathroom so need to get my shower out of the way before guests wake and need it) but I don't expect them to get up early as they're on their hols! However I think if they were hiding in their rooms until gone 9am I'd think it a bit anti-social!

I'm a night owl and would sleep in till 10ish if I can, so I was going to say I am with guests sleeping in as much as they want, but actually yes, 11:30 is pretty late for staying in someone's house - especially when there was some expectation of deciding to go somewhere together in the day.

I know some hosts on MN really dislike guests sleeping in. Conversely as someone who never ever was an early bird, I really dislike the pressure to be up early as a guest. When we holiday with the in-laws everyone is up and dressed at breakfast table at 7am, I groggily join in at 830am and feel like some kind of slovenly criminal!

OP maybe your guests weren't that keen on the outings. And it's also hard to get some people to change set sleeping habits. I think your expectations were different.

It depends who the guests are and why they're visiting. If we sleep over after a night out then there's no rules, but once breakfast is cooking someone will give anyone left in bed a nudge.
If someone had visited after working shifts or a really long journey I'd expect maybe one day of adjusting?
Then I would expect it to be a conversation. Shall we go to X or Y tomorrow? Ohh, let's decide tomorrow. OK cool, we could do with being on the road by 10.

All valid points - and I didn't put it in AIBU because I wasn't annoyed or anything (AIBU to set my visitor's bed on fire, they won't get up )
Next time a set schedule will be discussed i.e. Let's go to X place at 10. I had just kind of assumed that the guest would be up earlier on the second day.

Thanks for the points of view folks

I think you’ve been too relaxed - don’t rearrange meal times around them.

When I stay at my mums she often lets me sleep in till noon as a treat, but I don’t get up and expect breakfast and then lunch to revolve around me! I’d also of course not lie in if there are plans for the next day.

My in-laws are late 70s and go to bed at midnight and get up at 5am - there's no way I'm following their routine! But when I'm away visiting them or somewhere else, I do get up about half 8-9 o'clock because I'm doing something with my day (socialising with my hosts or sightseeing etc.). It'd be rude to lie in bed late unless I was ill.

I am a naturally early riser. I am usually awake and wanting to get up at 530 even though I don't have kids. I hate staying with people because I always feel like I'm waiting for them to get up.

We just had FIL staying. He went to bed at 3am and got up at 12 noon. DH and I did our own thing in the mornings and told him we'd be home for midday and then went out with him in the afternoon. I went to bed at my usual time (10ish) and DH stayed up with him a bit.

Larks and owls, we’re not compatible.
When I’m staying with owls I get a second wind and can stay up very late, but I still wake early next morning. When owls stay with me I wait hours for them to surface in the morning then they’re eating breakfast an hour before my lunch. It’s annoying to have to creep around for fear of waking them until the morning’s nearly gone.