To want a normal life

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I know what is normal?!? I'm a single mum to a 13 year old and have been since he's been born. I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant and been dumped so going alone with this one aswell. I usually feel ok about it but today I just thought I was a normal life ie marriage and living together in stability. I'm not going to have that am I?

i think one of the things that stops us being unhappy in life is the expectations of what we think it should be.
I dont really have a conventional life either, and sometimes I must admit it gets me down, but the grass is always greener on the other side.
Do you have a support network?

I have a very good friend who wants a relationship with me. My mum isn't interested but I'm close to my brothers.

I know what you mean op. I think about this often, the times I’m not thinking I’m just sticking my head in the sand and telling myself it will all work out in the end but secretly I know it’s going to most likely all go pear shaped for me within the next few years unless something miraculous happens soon. Best wishes to you.

Normal isn’t all it’s cracked up to be!

There’s a book called I Am The Parent Who Stayed which was written by a lovely who has been bringing up her family as a lone parent. She talks about ways to vision and build the future you want for your family. Might be worth checking it out.

By a lovely MNer*

Thank you xx

I see people with stable lives and I'm jealous

Comparison is the theif of joy.

I want to give it a go with my friend but I worry that's not 'normal'

I feel it's not the rite time to start anything with the friend but I could be entirely wrong

because I'm pregnant?

Fuck it. Make your own normal.

You only have to read a few threads on here to realise that what looks normal and stable on the outside often isn't behind closed doors. I bet a some of your happily coupled up mates wish they had the nerve to go it alone like you.

Normal is overrated. There are plenty of miserable "normal" families on the relationships board.

Because your hormonal and feel confused and stuff at the moment hence the post

Find your new normal first and adjust and then see if this new guy fits into your new normal