Moving away from family as a single parent would you do it?

[Rubberduck2021]

The question is just that would you move away? After a nasty break up 2 years ago I want a fresh start for me and my 2 children away from all the bad memories. We live currently live in a very rural area, they type everyone knows everybody and their business too- my break up is still some 2 years on village news lol!
I feel in my gut moving away it’s the right thing to do 98% of the time but then when it comes to taking the plunge I just can’t press the button. Id be moving away from family and the few close friends l have with only the hope of things will work out and it terrifies me I really am stuck... a house has come up that is just perfect and need to make decision but that 2% fear factor is kicking in... help

I can't say it from a single parent but yes I would, I left my friends and family nearly 6 years ago now and don't regret it, I now have a wonderful husband and children yes sometimes I miss it and wonder if I did the right thing but I needed to escape the past and by moving I sort of felt freer. I now have a few close friends. Unfortunately only you will know if its the right thing. If you think you can manage it and can cope then yes do it.

Not at the moment, no.DC are 1 and 3, I live 10 miles from in laws and exH, and 20 miles from my parents and brother and sister. I work part time, rarely see friends. Both GPs are fabulous with the children. I would be making my life very difficult by moving.

Yes. You can always go back home.

I wish i had. The gossip and stigma is still around me years on. The friends i had at the time have moved on. people are transient - I now mix in different circles. But the kids are now old enough to have an opinion. And they want to stay.

If you have the means and confidence to move on with your life, do it.

It depends on how far away you are going, how well you get on with your family, how old your children are, whether they see their dad/grandparents, aunt's, uncles and cousins often etc. But 98% in favour is pretty high!

I'm all for new starts and a new life after large life events. You would find your identity, cast off the gossip, and reinvent your family life. Your family/friends could come and stay and/or you could have holidays together.

I would do it but I appreciate how support from others is when one is a single parent. However you would get involved in new events and activities in the new place and make new friends, as would the children. It would be exciting.

How old are your kids?

Too many factors to consider rrally. Jobs and school and childcare for a start...

I moved away for the same reasons - don't regret it for a second. I should've done it sooner.

The children are one of the trickiest bits ...It would suit my eldest down to the ground but youngest not so much. What further complicates matters is I work full time ,only 10 minutes away from where we are now so moving would mean commuting 50 miles until found a new job. Add in that despite fact ex lives only 10 miles from where we currently are ,for reasons I won’t go into he doesn’t see the children, which means all help with children comes from my parents (childcare is non existent around here) But to be honest this is not done without payment and an underlying feeling that they really would rather not but ultimately feel obligated to help.

Bumping you for the evening crowd...

I would love to move away. When my children were younger, but old enough to have an opinion and I was the only one who wanted to move. When they chose to live with their partners, they didn't think twice about it, they just did it.
When I again brought up the subject of me moving away they didn't want me to do it as I had a health scare so again I gave into their wishes. I rarely see them despite being right here.
Something is happening right now which is very worrying and this time to have peace of mind and feel safe I am going to have to move away. It is not essential that I move "away". I could move nearby but I think if you are going to do something do it big!
I am the same 98% sure that this is the right thing to do but also have the 2% fear! Any ideas on getting over the fear factor are welcome.

Hey! I know this post is from 2018 but I was wondering if you had moved and started you’re fresh life? I’m in the same boat , but so much more has happened for me and I’m thinking of moving to straffordshire with my 3 kids for a fresh start from s.wales.. I have nothing here apart from my job and my kids and it’s draining to know deep down this life I want isn’t here in South Wales , but I’m petrified of the move, and adapting to the new place, the kids etc!🥺