What do you think?

[Mrspimplepopper]

A little bit of advice needed please.

I was ill in hospital last week. On Wednesday my dc (bring looked after by my mum as I was in hospital) attended a school disco.

My ds 7 has some asd traits which the school are aware of. My mum took my dd9 and ds7 to the disco but my ds wouldn't let her leave. He got upset at the loud music and general chaos.

The senco teacher was at the disco and tried to help. She took my mum and ds into the another room where the refreshments were being served. She got out colouring crayons for my ds. Dr meanwhile was enjoying the disco

Thankyou if you have read this far

So my mum is sat with my very upset ds and the senco. The head teacher comes into the room and is very frosty and rude to my mum. She commented that it was a school disco not an art club. My mum felt very uncomfortable and was made to feel bad.

my ds were already very anxious as I was in hospital (head teacher knew I was in hospital) ..i feel the headteacher was way out of order in being so frosty.

I'm not sure I'm making sense. Sorry.

I would have hoped that the head teacher would have said hello to my ds. Given that he was upset and knowing his asd traits been a little more compassionate

Am I being unfair? Are school supposed to support kids in rubbish times?

I don't think you are being unreasonable. The Head teacher seemed to lack compassion. Was she aware that the senco organised it?

I'm not sure she was aware that the senco had organised it. Maybe she wasn't. I'm sure she'd had a very long day too

Its just I'm upset at the lack of compassion shown to my ds and my mum who was doing her best to care for both my dc.

My ds was sat making a get well card for me, breaks my heart to imagine her coldness towards my family

I think the head teacher is a heartless cow.

Doublevoka I think so too

I don't understand how she could be so cold towards my ds. My mum said that she felt so awkward. My poor mum was worrying about me and was trying her best with my ds and dd

Would an email to the school be appropriate? Just highlighting my sadness really. Not to complain or anything but....

Aghhhhh I don't know

YANBU
Was the senco in the room when the head teacher said what she did? If so how did the senco react?

I feel the senco had probably gone off to supervise the children in the hall, I'd have to ask my mum though. My mum was sat in the refreshments room with some pta ladies who were serving drinks etc.

I really wouldn't worry about it. The head wasn't very nice, but perhaps she's not a very nice person. Not all teachers are like Miss Honey. Some are down right nasty. Or perhaps she was just having a bad day. Being at a school disco may have bee the last place she wanted to be! Don't email the school. Just try to forget about it. Really hope that you are feeling better.

She sounds awful. Thankfully most heads and teaching staff I have ever worked with would have been much more understanding. Your poor lad and your mum. I hope you're feeling better