Help me retreive deleted contact! Urgent!

[JusttheTwoofUs3110]

So, I deleted his number in a fit of rage, don't know it by heart, deleted history call, sms, whatsapp conversations and have no eay of finding the number (no shared friends). Tried reinstalling whatsapp, didn't work, tried some app to restore deletesd sms - didn't work. Help, I need suggestions!

If he’s worth talking to, won’t he have your number?

Have you got your phone backed up to a cloud?? My.contacts are automatically stored on my Samsung account

Check itemised billing? Or if you have a back up of WhatsApp saved on the cloud i.e. Google drive could restore that. Quickest is the billing suggestion

Check your bill if you can remember times you called, last 3 digits etc

Did you tell him not to contact you again ? Is he likely to contact you?

What is itemised billing? Not from uk.

Go to his house? Find him on fb?

Or, don't and remember that you binned him for a reason.

Thank you all for suggestions, btw. Yup, told him not to contact me, plus i blocked him on fb

Doesn’t WhatsApp archive messages?

Or you can just unblock him on Facebook and contact him that way.

It's actually really complicated. But that's the thing - i overreacted (always had a tendency to it), and am lef feeling like an idiot. He is lovely, i am a moron. I don't know if he will contact me, he replied saying that ok if that is what i want, but that he thinks i definitely overreacted for no good reason. Nothing since. I unblocked him yesterday and sent him a fb messenger text but they weren't delivered (empty circle with a tick). And i know the general arrea where he lives but i've never been to his place.

Is there any specific reason you need to contact him? Otherwise, leave it, forget him, move on.

Gather what is left of your dignity OP and back away - honestly, your actions do sound quite final! Don't try and find the number!

Well, i like him, and would like to apologize at least. It was just so unnecessary, my whole reaction. It sucks to live it at this.

Leave, not live. Sorry. Yes, I guess I'll have to accept it as it is. I didn't even realize I liked him this much, until I realized it's suddenly all over.

This won’t be the end. Don’t worry.
If it’s meant to be he will just give you some cooling off time (which will be good for both of you) and get in touch.

Thanks, @MNisforlosers, but I'm not all that sure. I was kind of a mess because I was going through separation (6 months ago), then met him accidentally 2 months ago. I just needed distraction and he was kind and nice and was there but wasn't really, which suited me. I liked the attention, he was really into me, but in a non pushy way. At the beginning i mostly talked about how the separation was affecting me, i was really struggling, he was just a handy shoulder to cry on. And a really handsome one at that. But i still didn't take it seriously, how could i, with everything going on. And then it just gradually became something more and i realized i actually like him, and that freaked me out, i guess.

If he likes you he won’t just let it drop though.

He was really attracted to me, no doubt about that, but after all this, i don't know. I think i am too much work, to be honest. I am still technically married, with my husband heavily hinting on wanting to work things out, is still regularly at my place (we have a 6 year old daughter). He knows all of these things, and i fear that he'll thonk i am just too much trouble. Which i probably am, such as i am at the moment. I never really even showed him how much i started liking him, it was scary enough to admit it.to myself.

Think, not thonk, fgs! You are right, though. I am just afraid i'll find out he didn't like me that much after all. Now that i finally realised i like him.

I think you should focus on moving on and if he comes back he will. But it does sound very intense after only 2 months.

But that's just it, it actually wasn't intense in a normal way. We only kissed once! We really really took it slow, just kind of connected. I know, I will stop trying to find his number, it was silly, really, and i will just move on. Not much else to do, anyway.

I think the fit of rage, blocking and unblocking, unwarranted overreaction, newly separated where you were using the new guy as a shoulder to cry on and mostly talking about the separation indicates it was intense. This isn’t to kick you whilst you are down but sounds like it isn’t meant to be right now.

I think what was really intense was my reaction when I realized I had feelings for him. I mean, real feelings, like being phisically attracted and everything. I was with my husband for 8 years,since i was 24, and only had one boyfriend before. I was never attracted to anyone in my marriage, other than my husband, and the realisation itself was what was intense.

How are you now?