Affair/Breakup

[Blawrence1]

Hi I'm 35 year old father of 3. I've been with my wife for 15 years and married for 9. I've not shown her enough love of emotion over the years even tho she is the centre of my universe I've never translated that to her (typical emotional blackout man thing). Now I've joined here to ask this 1 question can you completly fall head over heeles in love with someone after only 3 weeks of mainly messages and 1 meeting over coffee and so far nothing physical enough to choose over a 9 year marrage??.This is what my wife has done amd im devestated i cant believe 3 weeks can do this over a 15 year and 3 child relationship. Thanks for and answers to my question

You can fall in 'lust' but not love in such a short space of time. Trouble is, people often confuse the two, until the novelty wears off.

Thankyou for you reply i dont believe its lust my wofe is not like that and also noyhing physical has happened. I am scared because she says "he just knows me" and "he make me happy without even trying". But 3 weeks... I just can get my head around it. The worst thing is she now knows what she means to me and that I know what to do to make her feel super loved special and invinsable but she says it too late everything has gone. I just can believe 3 weeks is enough to fall in love.

I can fall for someone quickly

Are you still together?

'Typical man emotional blackout thing' sorry but I've had plenty of affection in relationships, you should leave her and let her find better

And if she's fallen for someone that fast, just let her go

It may not last but it's giving her what you withheld and what she wants

Osolomio yes we are still "together" and she wants to do it till.the new year for the sake of the kids Christmas. ive had a lot happen in my life to build up massive walls inside me, but this has completely smashed them. My heart and emotion used to be locked away now it's firmly on my sleeve. And as for the let go get what you can't give her i can give her that now..