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Break up advice needed

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newstart6929 · 17/11/2018 02:01

I’ve split from my Husband, been together almost 15 years, married for 8. We have a Son together.
However, he’s still sleeping on my sofa as he has nowhere else to go (no family or friends, he’s not the nicest of people and nobody will put him up).
He’s on the housing list to be given a new property, but I’ve told it could be up to a year before they find him anywhere and I can’t wait that long, we’re arguing on a daily basis and it’s uncomfortable for everyone.
Just posting in the hope that someone has any other ideas. He’d struggle to go private as doesn’t work (mental health problems) and so many places won’t accept DSS.
I just want him gone, it’s been two weeks since the split and I want my home back Sad

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Weenurse · 17/11/2018 02:04

No advice but 💐

theworldistoosmall · 17/11/2018 02:07

If he is seeing anyone for his MH, they can refer him onto someone who can help

newstart6929 · 17/11/2018 02:09

No he’s not seeing anyone, one of the reasons of the break up actually, he won’t get any help and I can’t do this anymore.

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avocadoincident · 17/11/2018 02:32

I think you need to see a solicitor about this. You will not be the first person in this scenario. ThanksThanks

Shriek · 17/11/2018 02:53

What's your legal situation. You've been married 8 years. You say its your sofa..he's on your sofa, isn't this also his house and his sofa, that you have shared for the last 15 years.
In terms of housing if this is so, he is housed?
If he's abusive...arguments...toxic environment, he needs out, but his mental health state is highly relevant in respect to his ability to work.

Is he able to?

Would you be able to afford to get him in a flat rental, a bedsit, pay for some months, and then he will have tonsort himself out. Or will you have to sell the house to divide the proceeds on divorce.
Where are you at with divorce?

newstart6929 · 17/11/2018 02:57

I rent with the local council, he’s down as living here but the house isn’t in his name, only mine.

He’s not abusive, not physically.
I don’t feel comfortable giving him any money as he’ll spend it on whatever he likes then come back to me when it’s all gone.
We haven’t even started with divorce yet, it’s got as far as me telling him I want one and him not really believing me. He seems to think I’ll take him back at some point.

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Shriek · 17/11/2018 03:05

So abusive then... Sorry to hear that Flowers.
No don't give him money..I meant provide the dep and some months rent to a landlord. He will then half tonget his act togwther, or not, but up to him

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