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I’m a bit annoyed but should I be?

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Bigboxzoe · 16/11/2018 17:11

Background. Live in a small village and despite living here over 20 years I’m still an “outsider”. DH comes from said village so naturally has a group of friends he’s known all his life. DH used to have a long term girlfriend who is one of the group before me. He didnt leave her for me but despite this (and her getting married herself) she has always held a torch for DH and quite clearly dislikes me.
Went to a funeral today of one of the group of DH friends. During the wake the ex GF came over to our table with a handful of her old pics of the group - one of the photos was of the person that passed away, some of the rest of the group then a few of my DH with her.
She made a point of sweetly saying she’d had a sort out of photos for the wake to reminisce over.
I didn’t say a thing a just looked politely at them, DH looked a bit embarrassed and bemused.
Today I’m slightly pissed off but not enough to say anything, after all I’m the one that’s been happily married to DH for 20 years so I had my man. I’m just a bit annoyed to think she’s happy to still shit stir after all these years.

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Jellyonawonkyplate · 16/11/2018 17:22

You've said it yourself, you've got your man. She's obviously a bit insecure if she's desperate for his attention but if you're totally secure in your own relationship then it really shouldn't bother you.

Nicknacky · 16/11/2018 17:23

I don’t see what’s she has done wrong at all?

Looking through old photos is probably really common after a death.

Voldesnort · 16/11/2018 17:52

She showed old photos of the group and some of your DH & her together? I couldn't get worked up about that (unless they were ones of them snogging or something!)
Honestly, you sound a bit insecure if you still feel an outsider after 20 years and are bothered about an ex from that length of time.

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