Pregnant, now single..

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I could really do with some advice... I think I'm pregnant to a guy I was dating for a couple of months (now over, my choice, just wasn't working). I say think because I've had a positive pregnancy test but I'm on the pill so I'm still holding out some hope that it's a false positive.

I'm 29, I could have a baby financially, have a home, family around me etc. I've always thought that at this age I wouldn't have an abortion because what if this is my only opportunity. If in a few years when/if I have a partner and I want to start a family, what if I can't? I'd always regret giving up the opportunity to be a mum. But being faced with the actual situation I don't know how I feel.

I can't talk to my best friend about this, she's been trying for a baby for 5 years and is currently going through her first round of IVF. Seeing how she's struggled is one of the main reasons for my fear that I would in the future.

I'm not sure what advice I'm looking for to be honest, I just feel a bit overwhelmed and can't order my thoughts logically and wanted to talk to someone.

I'm a regular reader but I've reverted to my original username for this post.

I think the first thing is to confirm if you are pregnant or not. You could be worrying for no reason!

Thanks Bunny, I've done another test this lunchtime, another positive, 3+ weeks

That’s a def then! Has that made you feel any more certain about what you’re going to do?

How are you feeling OP? Is talking to the ex something you feel ready/able to do? I realise that you don’t feel able to talk to your best friend, but is there anyone else who can support you?

@Bunnyhop1502 - nope, no more certain either way.

I've rang to try and get a doctors app because I've put my dates in on an online calculator and it's saying I'm 9 weeks. In that time I've been to a country with the Zika virus and also a very boozy holiday.

@Chocolateandcarbs I'm just not sure what to say to him at this point. I'm fairly certain he'd be in the abortion camp. I've got my mum and I will speak to her this weekend, she's dealing with a lot at the moment and I just feel guilty adding this into the mix.

I'm just so confused about what I want, I love kids and I definitely want them, but it's always been one day, rather than now.

Thanks both for replying x

Hi, you don’t have to decide today. Could you take a little time and let the news settle for a bit? I find that I get a gut feeling about things. It sounds like getting what you want is important to you before you speak to your ex partner. Are you ok in yourself? I hope your mum provides the support you need and here if you need to chat x

*getting what you want straight in your head