So, I have been with my husband for 15 years, 9 of which we have been married for.
Within the 1st year of being married he cheated on me. I gave him another chance. Within another year, he cheated on me again, and yes I took him back. After 6 years of being together we got married and went on to have a beautiful boy who’s now 7. The cheating ultimately effected any intimacy that we had and has been on/off for years. Along with this I have also had to put with his awful and vile temper throughout the years. Speaking to me like am a child, sulking if something doesn’t go his way. He lashes out(not am put but he will bang doors or throw things). When he’s great he’s great and when he’s not he’s not and this has a huge effect on me as I have basically put the barriers up over time. Enough was enough and last year I plucked up the courage to say I believed we should go our separate ways. Long story short after tears and heartache I gave him another chance and he got Councelling but deep down, I knew the aggression would come back and it did. Again, he started flying off the handle at the most insignificant things and I said I can’t be treated like this anymore, it’s not fair on me. As much as he’s an amazing dad, we get in really well, in my opinion we were just friends. No intimacy(on my part) it’s emotional abuse and I have had enough. Again, he said he’d change, was sorry ect and I said in August if it happened again, we were done. Low and behold, he’s been stressed and as usual I bare the brunt of his outbursts and I have said we are going his separate ways.
He is mortified it has come to this, is so sorry and believes we have something to work on as in general we do get on but like I said to him, he’s hurt me too much for me to have any faith in him. It’s absolutely heartbreaking seeing him so upset but I can’t keep going through this but I feel guilty as he clearly needs help but I wouldn’t be happy if I stayed even though I love him. So so sorry for the extra long post!