Please please help me somebody

[NarcissisticGaslight]

I feel like I’m losing my mind
Or maybe I already have
I need someone to look at this situation and tell me if I’m the mad one or if like my username suggests I’m being emotionally abused

I can’t give too much detail as I know my things are looked at and I’m worried but I’ll give as much as I can.
Somebody very close to me I think is emotionally abusing me with mind games and what I think is gaslighting

Sometimes ultra nice to me
Sometimes absolutely evil
Changed from one minute to the next
Moved my things
Takes my things
Watches me looking says no idea where it is etc
Belittles me tells me I’m not capable of things

Today I was searching for something
‘I have no idea where it is’ so I kept looking then I was told ‘actually I put it in your pink box’ so I looked and not there ????
Then I get smirks and told it’s def there
Then more and I’m told ‘actually I put it in your coat pocket ‘ so I look and not there
Then more smirking and I git upset and suddenly it starts
‘Why are you having a go at me???’ Victim mode and I got more upset as feel it’s gaslighting??? then I get told ‘ooh don’t get stressed will you ....’

I had to leave I cried in the park for ages and was cold and I go back and everything is
‘HELLO!!!!! OH I MISSED YOU! I MADE YOU FOOD!’

I feel like I’m going totally mad thisnos just a small example and I can’t cope I’m exhausted
Please help me what do I do

Do you have children in the house?

If someone is making you feel like you're going mad, get out!
Preserve your sanity and self worth.

It’s gaslighting isn’t it. I wasn’t sure
I feel like I’m being controlled by a narcissistic gaslighter
I have cried so much this afternoon and then when I get back it’s all changed
I’d rather it was all one thing either everything’s fine or everything’s awful not this constant changing and games I’ve had enough
Children are ok I think the change comes about so that in front of them everything appears ‘ok’ hence the false niceness when back from school after I’d spent a good 1.5 hrs crying in a cold park and had to do pick up looking puffy and red and tearful

You are losing your mind, but it's all down to this other person. They are tormenting you. Can you get away from them?

Yes I can

I just feel today it was so so awful and utvwas more subtle before but today was dreadful

Nasty nasty person.

You must leave. And you don’t need to give them a reason why. And cut the contact.

This is emotional abuse and as you can see very damaging for you.

I was thinking you had a despotic toddler messing with you. But that's what narcs mental age is... Run and don't look back. There's lots of information online about narcissists and their behaviour.
They won't think twice about using your dcs to get to you.

What has kept this going is it’s been subtle sometimes
And the change to extreme niceness in between
All the times I’ve lost things though and looked for them and I know now it’s just been taken or important things moved and for what? To make me look? To make me think I’m losing things and going mad

I'm very relieved to read that you can get out.
Do so.

I get I knew as I’ve looked up narcissism and gaslighting before as felt it was that

Also trying to turn people against me that seems to be a theme i will everybso often find out something has been said about me to alter others opinions of me almost to try and reduce my potential support network to keep me trapped ??

This sounds horrendous, it doesn't matter how subtle it is, you are being abused.

What is your situation? Can you get him to leave? Or will you leave?

The best thing you can do for you and your children is to get away from this abusive lunatic.

He knows exactly what he is doing; abusing you and by default, your children.

Today has been awful. Draining
I had to run out and I now just feel cold and awful and tired and anxious
I can get away from the situation just feel stupid that I let it carry on but I just felt unsure sometimes was it me or not at first

He really has read the abusers handbook hasn't he?

The people who know you, will be there for you. Don't let him make you question your supportive relationships.

I'm no expert but it reads like gaslighting. The 'it's over there. No, over there, no, over there' - that must look like s/he's working you with a remote control. They must get a kick out of that I suppose, with the added bonus of making you think you're mad. I would quietly make plans to leave.