Who should win?

[sarahlorenson]

I've changed my username but I'm a long time lurker and have posted few times before.
This is a slightly different one, here we go.
So my Aunt has organised this game in our family, purely for fun but has a nice gift for the winner. Me, my sister and few other cousins are the participants and everyone is working really hard to win this.
And it has a wildcard round and prize for the winner too. Now I'm leading both rounds ( it has points system, yes my Aunt loves organising events), so today my sister has asked me to step down from the wildcard so she can win that prize and I can win the main one.
To do this I have to deliberately slow my self down and break the rules.

My aunt has disqualified one cousin previously for cheating.

What would you do in this situation?
I love my sister dearly we are very close and she is working really hard to win this. Although it started as a fun game everyone is pretty serious and trying to win.

Can’t you just swap the prizes and win fair and square?

Does your sister want the kudos of winning the wildcard round, or is she after the actual prize itself? If it's just the prize, you could say that you won't step down, but if you win it you'll give her the prize - then nobody will have cheated. Bit harder if she wants the kudos as well though!

If you do step down/slow down, surely your aunt would notice anyway - so you might get disqualified?

I can't believe your sister has asked you to do this. A game is a game. Whoever wins wins. If she can't handle that she needs to not participate in the first place.

It sounds like it stopped being fun sometime ago.

I love to win both, I've worked really hard, it's not easy to juggle kids, work and this, as it needs a big chunk of your time. But now I feel bad and can't decide what to do.

As above is it the prize or the kudos? Or.... Is her asking you to cheat a test?!!.... (Cue dramatic dannn dann dann!)

It's a game, it's meant to be fun. This doesn't sound fun.

She is after kudos and the prize.

It was fun up until this point. And now I've lost the motivation and thinking I don't want to fall out with her because of a game.

Depends.

Is this a regular event which the same people win year after year? In which case maybe your aunt needs to rethink whether it's a good thing for family harmony.

If not, if it is a fair competition, then why should you deliberately lose? She's a grown woman, with, I would hope, as much chance to win as you. Not a child who needs coaching and encouragement.

If you think a compromise is reasonable, tell your dsis that you'll share the prize if you win more than one.

How can she have kudos knowing that someone deliberately lost to let her win? What if you back off and another family member pips her to the post?