This is probably an AIBU but I don’t like it in there.
So we have some friends who we see every now and then. We are not extremely close and have not known each other for a very long time but we enjoy their company and I suppose they enjoy ours.
These friends have a daughter of a similar age to ours.
Every time we meet my dh tends to spend a lot of time playing with their daughter. Tickling, laughing, all sorts of silly play which you would normally find cute.
More recently I started being bothered by it, not really really bothered, but more like I became aware of it and I sort of tried to tell him, in a nice way, that is a bit weird that he seems to enjoy these friends’ daughter more than he enjoys his.
I find it weird because it is not reciprocated - don’t get me wrong, I am sure they like our child - but I find my husband a bit ott. So I tried to make him aware.
For example, last week it was our dd’s birthday and dh has spent most of the time playing with the other girl and I felt like he ignored our dd. She is young so I am not sure whether she picked up on it, but the idea that she might somewhere deep inside acknowledge this hurts me.
He is annoyed with me for mentioning this, thinks I am being unreasonable and obviously sees nothing wrong. He says “yeah, but dd doesn’t love me/like me” - huge back story but basically dd is going through a phase where she is all mummy but no daddy sort of thing - mainly, I believe, because he has no patience and loves to say no.
Anyway, should I have kept it shut and not mention it?