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Suddenly overwhelmed in new relationship

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Lostlily · 12/11/2018 23:09

I am in the most wonderful relationship with an amazing man.
I can't believe my luck some days.
But today, after a great weekend I suddenly feel...... I don't know? Scared ? Overwhelmed ? I feel a little out of control and like I need to sort my head out.
This man has made such a difference to my life and I really needed someone to show me what I had been missing after the last long years of a miserable marriage.
I HAVE JUST HUNG UP ON HIM AND I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY ?

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Alilwolf · 12/11/2018 23:12

Lol, you're allowed to fuck up

Alilwolf · 12/11/2018 23:13

Just text him saying you're having a wobble and that it's nothing personal.

Lostlily · 12/11/2018 23:23

He has txt me saying he doesn't know what just happened.
I don't know what to say.
I was expecting him to come back to mine after work tonight and he didn't. We didn't arrange it I guess, I was kind of pissed at that as I was looking forward to seeing him. Then I suddenly, thought to myself....get a grip, and panicked that I am in this big relationship and We have talked about him moving in early next year, I have not long moved into my new place and I love it. I love it how it is and I don't want all his stuff filling it up 😟
What's going on in my head

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WitchBottle · 12/11/2018 23:30

You don’t sound ready to be contemplating moving in with someone. Is it long since your marriage ended? I’d slow things right down in your shoes.

AtrociousCircumstance · 12/11/2018 23:31

You adore the man but you don’t want him to move in. That’s all. And that’s ok. Just tell him you need more time. Which obviously you do! If he’s as amazing as you say he’ll be ok with it.

Lostlily · 12/11/2018 23:40

Im crazy about him and he seems the same. I think thats what I find so scary.
We have spent alot of nights together the last few weeks but because of being on opposite shifts and child care responsibilities at weekends we haven't actually spent much time together apart from late evening and asleep.
I want to see him less often for more quality time periods.
I miss him loads when we're apart and I feel sick at the thought of hurting or losing him

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